I'm crying and can't stop, I'm shit at coping

[AmIWhatAndWhy]

It's not all to do with DS, but it triggered it. We had to cancel his birthday outing because he refused to get onto the bus (bloody London bus drivers are far from sympathetic too which doesn't help)

We got back home soaking wet and as I was changing DD he put my shoes into the washing machine and set it going. They are the only flat shoes I have so I'll have to struggle in heels all weekend.

He just said 'sorry mummy' and then cracked DD hard on her head with the tv remote.

All my lovely visions of his birthday are reduced to crap.

Shameful bump.

I know there's not much you can say to help.

sorry no advice but big >>>

lots of hugs, its awful when it goes tits up on birthdays- makes you doubly aware of what should be.

How old is he?

We had a dreadful few years with birthdays when ds1 was younger. Much better now (we've sussed out what works and what doesn't). Happy birthday to your little man anyway.

I'm sorry. Hope tomorrow is better x

AmIWhatAndWhy

for you that the birthday outing didnt go ahead.

DD is like this,its so hard isnt it,can only sympathise with you.

jen
xxxx

Ah so sorry your having a bad day.

We had something similar with ds, we arranged on his birthday not to have a party as he always throws wobblers, but to go to this fantastic exhibition place for kids, anyway through wobblers all the way round.

Happy birthday little why

Heck. Hugs needed. And a large cup of tea.

Thankyou you ladies are fab. he had a mini nap on the sofa and has had great fun with the balloons.

He's three today.

he's still being awful though, DD has been doing a puzzle and he keeps snatching or hiding bits of it.

I feel like shit becuse he's annoying me, I shouldn't feel like that about him should I/

I'm planning to do his favourite dinner though, beans, spanish omelette and seeded bread. Then we'll have cake and candles and the rest of his gifts.

"I feel like shit becuse he's annoying me, I shouldn't feel like that about him should I/"
You wouldn't be human if you didn't sometimes- about any of your children!

exactly what jimjams said, I feel like this sometimes about both of my children! They can annoy me senseless but I still love them dearly. Your feelings are entirely normal.

Also quite a few three year olds don't deal with birthdays well SN or otherwise.

I hope your day improves.

Know it's not the done thing but not much else to say except {{{{{{AIWAW}}}}}}

It's awful when you make great plans and have a lovely day lined up for them and it all goes tits up. It really makes you feel "why the hell did I bother". I hope your evening improves and he enjoys his favourite tea.

Have a large glass of wine when they've gone to bed!

sorry to hear the excursion didn't work, hope tea goes well

sorry the outing was a bit grim. hope you manage to do it another time soon.

Sorry you're having such a bad day - hopefully this evening will be better

I agree with jimjams that its only natural that you feel like this sometimes. Don't beat yourself up about it{{{hugs}}}

I think its all of our LOs job to annoy us SN, NT or anything else! Don't feel bad x

Sorry you had a hard day, Happy birthday to the birthday boy and hope you enjoy his cake.

Sorry todays been difficult - birthdays always seem to be in our house too - I think it is the extra fizz in the air and change in routine! And I always end up saddened by it all!! Hope your shoes recover ( perhaps he was trying to clean them for you!) and you get a chance to enjoy some part of today!! 3 is still so young! Hope ds enjoyed his favorite tea!!

at your disarrayed plans.

hope your newly washed shoes are now drying.

Sorry things went wrong today. Maybe you could try for the trip another day.

birthdays can be very hard. I remember DS1 running off at top speed in tears and spending the rest of the afternoon sitting hundreds of yards away from everyone else blowing bubbles.

Best wishes to you.