Anyone else have 2 kids with sn, one severe and one so mild you don't even think of it as sn?

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I spend so much time worrying about dd1's disability, that I forget about dd2's ADHD. I don't even think of her as sn. She was only diagnosed recently, but even so, she's just so normal in many ways. Well, normal compared to her sister. I hope I'm making snse.

Sphil, I was just wondering how to put our situation into words and you decribed it perfectly! I see many dyspraxic/as traits in dd but as she is learning to cope with them it seems better to leave well alone. I did have an attack of guilt as it seemed unfair that if her difficulties hadn't seemed 'trivial' compared to her brother's I would have being doing more to help, but tentative attempts to speak to the school weren't very successful and were in danger of making things worse so I backed off. Like you I do feel rather guilty that she still can't do things like ride a bike (she is almost 13) but we have recently had a breakthrough with swimming after getting her some private lessons which has really boosted her confidence, if not our bank-balance .

NMC re dd1. Hopefully, ne day she'll come round.

Graciefer, you make sense If dd just had problems with fine motor skills or speech, I wouldn't worry so much.

Know what you mean sphil, DS 1 has mild dyslexic/dyspraxic/AS traits and could do with more help from me but he is SO resistant to being treated differently to his peers and reacts very negatively to any suggestion that he is at all like DS2(AS) that i have ended up leaving him to get on with it (although I make sure his teachers know about his bro'). I sometimes imagine him on a psychiatrist's couch when he is 30 though .