how do u disapline a child with developmental delays???

[dsrplus8]

hello, am not sure if this is the best place to post this thread?here goes: ive got twins -ds4 and dd4 ,ds4 is "normal" (whatever that means/lack of better phrase),..dd4 has developmental delays.anyone who has twins will understand the havoic they cause.the latest "idea" is ds4 emptys all the bottles from the bathroom(shampoo/ baby lotion ect)onto the floor, then ds4 and dd4 sit and play in the goo. now whilst delighted that someone has found a way to engage dd4 in spontanious interactive play,she was looking at ds4 and laughing, i am slightly disturbed by the thought of the chemicals and mess.ds4 was told no and removed from the goo and cleaned up.dd4 sat there giggling away ,am at a loss as to how to teach her this isnt a good idea. i know this is a minor silly thing but am worried what would happen if they managed to get cleaning products/bleach ect.obviously cuboard locks are first course of action , but all kids eventually work out how to open them. (ds4is very bright)help????

This possibly isn't very constructive at all, but as you've (inadvertantly) found something DD likes to do - could you encourage it only when Mum is with them? Bathtime can be ace fun (way too much Matey, let the taps run and see the foam it causes!) but I too would be concerned about other dangerous stuff about. Could she/they have their own bottle of watered down Johnsons shampoo (no tears) and that is the only thing they can play with?
It's hard isn't it, but perhaps encouraging it within boundaries may be easier than completely discouraging it.
I have no idea at all, so feel free to ignore me x

Do you mean they are four years old? Why do you need to teach her that it is wrong? Surely you need to teach HIM! He's the one getting the stuff out? And yes, you need to literally lock stuff away that is dangerous. It sounds as if your dd isn't getting stuff out so surely she isn't the problem? ANd yes, let them play together in the bath.

My daughter with GDD who is now 10 still loves to squeeze out toothpaste and shampoo etc and tells me she is 'cooking'. I keep all cleaning products in the kitchen which is locked at night to stop this kind of thing early morning.

Her 5 year old sister is good at telling her to stop now and knowing this is undesirable!!

mabanana the twins are 3 years old( have eight kids in all/ 4 boys 4 girls/ 5 of them are my birth children 3 of them are step children: but theyre ALL MINE!!)follow??? ds4 IS the problem, i agree but dd4 has to learn if hes being naughty its not good to join in .baths a great idea.sometime i think all my experience of children is bloody useless when it comes to dd4, that i "have to throw the book out" and start from scratch, cause what works with a "normal"(god i hate that word)child doesnt work for a SN child.arrgh!!!! wee feeling sorry for myself rant there, oops/ please ignore.got to run ds4 has A BAG ON HIS HEAD AND I THINK ITS STUCK.