Wetting question

[PeachyAndTheSucklingBas]

DS3 is wetting abdly agin, drenched M&S today

School teels me he'sfine there so must be my aprenting.

Am I a shite aprent or could it be, as dh says, that theya re psuhing him so hard? It seems to tie with tiny changes at school- such as teacher swapping snacks or when he has achieved higher levels academincally (I think they do push him)

But it could be me culdn't it. Missing cues and being useless?

He has review next week so trying to sort in my head.

i would think that because school is more structured, it's easier for teachers to build in toilet times and for the children to know when these are going to be. it's really difficult for home-life to be as structured as this so only natural, i would think) that more accidents like this will happen. it sounds like you are beating yourself up about things you can't control

Rather than you missing cues - could it be that DS is picking them up at school from other boys, prompted by teacher, or responds to the school routine? Could it be that DS is much more relaxed and comfortable with you and at home, rather than in the school structure and rules? I don't know anything but I can't believe that you are a poor parent or useless

I agree with both the other responses. Ds2 wets himself most days but rarely at school (he's currently only at school half days). I wouldn't blame it on my parenting. Please don't worry that it's your fault, quite likely to be what your dh has suggested instead.

I have always found that ds has fewer accidents at school. I do not think it is my parenting - and I am sure it is not yours either!
At school natural toilet breaks occur (and they all go) it sort of provides a nonverbal prompt! Also there may be some effect of peer pressure - children are likey to be less accepting of accidents than adults!! It is also the best part of the day. Ds typically has accidents as he tires, (or before he is fully awake). If it just a phase well is he coming down with a cold/bug, or constipated that always seems to upset the applecart. Also dont males suffer from urgency in cold weather?
Anyway I think your DH is probably right.

Sorry Peachy - misread your post!! Sorry! What I meant was to agree with YOU it is probably learning new skills that has caused problems with remembering the loo - you know like we all forget things when we are too busy and worn out!

I agree that it's highly unlikely to be a parenting issue - although I must admit that I'm biased because I've got something similar happening here.

Often I don't think there are any cues to pick up. IME there doesn't seem to be the jiggling about on the spot or looking uncomfortable in the way that NT children seem to do.

I think your dh might be right. Your ds3 probably just settles into the idea of being able to do a particular thing when his teacher is then looking at ways to move him along a little and it all changes.

Factors that seem to affect mine are:

• Being too busy concentrating on something else and either not realising or just forgetting

• Worries about using the toilet at home, especially since the clocks went back and they have to put lights on in order to use the toilet

• Not going at school during the day and saving it up for hometime