dd is only child not in school play

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she is in reception. They rehearse in the afternoon apparently and dd does half days.
I reckon they could have made her a snowflake or something for the actual play cos its after school, she is awke by then and its not like she can run amok.

They culd have easily given her a part, I would chase up.

DS1 has been given the same part as the younger year group , he is seriously upset. As am I.

I would complain this is awful that she has not been included.Its a lame excuse from them.Are you generally happy with the school? I would be concerned by their behaviour regarding this.
It doesnt take much effort to include her and I agree she could have been a snowflake etc etc

they haven't even mentioned it. I only found out cos its in the newsletter!

That's dreadful.

Well that is even worse, they are in the dark ages, this is very hurtful for you.Plays are so important for all especially the children. I would speak with the head on Monday.
Its discriminatory and extremely insensitive.

That's horrid.

She could easily be a snowflake, angel, sheep (I was a sheep once - loved it) or the very important star (if it is traditional nativity). I think I might talk to the school - her having a part is important and its not going to affect the other childrens rehearsals if she isn't there, is it? I think the star would suit her down to a tee!
P.S. Read your other thread grrrr! Does nobody talk to each other????? So annoyed for you.

Hopefully a word or two with them will make them realise they need to change their minds.

Reminds me of DS2, who only went in to school part-time in YR.
They didn't teach him the words to the carols for the church service, so he stood there looking bemused, then burst into tears.

It's cruel and thoughtless.
No excuse for it.

Humphrey thats awful

Hi I am a teacher (as well as a mum of a SN child) and have in my class year 2 a boy with a statement. His statement is for GDD and his understanding is poor and we can not predict how he will behave in the play but he will be in it and have the same role as his peers. Inclusion ! I know that he will do me proud and there will be no prouder people in that audiance then his own parents. In terms of my own DD1 (who is not at my school) with lots of SEN she is also year 2 and is being an angel and is thrilled so there are schools and teachers out there who celebrate every child you have just got to find them!

That is so wrong, i would be upset to go and talk to the teacher and lets hope its just a misunderstanding and they are going to include your DD but havent mentioned it to either of you yet every child matters and should be involved in everything at school.

how insensitive

she has every right to take part just like every other little girl

You must be gutted NMC. Please go and speak to the school; don't let it fester.
It's very important that she's included, what message does it send?

Good luck.

How awful. Of course she must be included.

But if you read the OP her daughter is the ONLY child in the school who isnt included in the play for me that is extremely insensitive and hurtful for the family.

Christie I don't think I was one of those posters and I do take your point when it applies to general afternoon activities - it is difficult anywhere to accomodate part timers (whether in school or work place).

But your first school play is a bit of a biggie isn't it? And I don't think a parent should have to ask for their child to be included. It would be nice if a small part was offered and refused if the parent felt uncomfortable about it.

I would have a word with the teacher, but just ask for the information, rather than going in with guns blazing. There are 3 possibilties:

a) it was a considered decision. Clearly wrong and you are goign to have to work with the school to ensure that lessons are learnt.

b) it was an oversight. Hopefully your question will ensure a speedy remedy and no repetition.

c) they've already come up with a role that doesn't need rehearsing and have simply failed to communicate with you.

If this is reception then I would approach clamly and seek information.