what would you do?? re council tranfer???

[sparklymieow]

decided to try on here seeing that my "chat" post is being ignored, and some of you may know what to do!

Some of you will know about the trouble we had last week and now DH wants to move away. Someone that DH's sis knows has a four bedroom disabled adapted house and he wants to move back this way, he has HIV and an austic son so he would be allow to have my house, but the problem is its 3 hours away from here. I would lose my whole support network and would have start again with SAL, physio, SS, hospitals etc etc. We would have SIL 40 mins away as she is moving up that way next month,
I am tempted, i'm not saying I'm not but there is so many things holding me here. Dh is all up for it, purely for the fresh start and it would get us again from the old crowd and trouble.
advice needed please...

THANKS Keane, thats was a great help Def. food for thought. I am quite impressed that you can get a Statement easily there, we can't get a a Statement at all here, and the school have to provide all the equiment and help. Sounds like you have a large amount of sn schools there. All I know is that the house is in the countryside of Stafford, does that help?? I am so tempt by this, whats SS like, just had the SW round and she said that we might gain or lose on our respite care....

CT it all sounds great doesn't it? OH the choices!! what to do?

When do you need to make the decision by? Or is it an open-ended offer?

I think its open till we decide. He currently spends a lot of time this way with friends and just want to be this way.

We have been looking at the council that sister-in-law is moving to, as they have a different way of giving out houses, you go online and look at the houses and then you express an interest in a house, if its want you are looking for. They have too many council houses and not enough people to fill them, so people from out the area can get a house if they want a fresh start. Have looked at the school that our niece is going to online and read their booklet and they have a great SN input, and they even have those interactive whiteboards, DS would love that.
SIL said that she would become our support and if we decide to move there she won't move back this way while we are there, she would never leave us without support. I have seen a four bedroom house, but they put new houses on the website every wednesday, and I am going to see if a bungalow comes up. Also I said that I will wait till she is up there and come and see the area and schools before I make a decision

there is lots of countryside round stafford

I would say ALL of the villages are fine though, if that helps!

Never had any dealings with SS, Mum did though and they were pretty good. plus I knew a Mum with an older dd with SN and she got regular respite