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OMG WWYD???????????????

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ewwwmy2shoesarefullofblood · 31/10/2008 19:17

dd has a chance to go to lourdes(sp)
when it was first mentioned I thought it was just for a weekend. but no 6 days
I have only scketchy details do far but it sounds amazing. she will go on a plane, stay in a hotel and see amazing things. all this with a 1-1(I have no concerns about the people taking her)
but 6 nights.
how the hell will I cope
she will be 14 and won't like the idea of going, but I am sure once on the plane will love it.
oh dear what a thing.
I know she has to go
but
6 days without her....................

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silverfrog · 31/10/2008 19:21

that's a good length of time - time enough for a proper break, not just a bit of sightseeing squashed in between lots of travelling

BUT, I know how you feel - I'm wibbling at the thought of my dd going for full days at school, let alone 6 days anywhere.

she will love it, and have time to really drink it all in

NightOfTheLivingThread · 31/10/2008 19:24

Ds1, 13 (not special needs) just went on a school trip for five days to germany and loved it. He was far more blase about it than I was. He is terrible at self-organisation etc but survived.

What sort of things will make your daughter doubt she should go?

NightOfTheLivingThread · 31/10/2008 19:31

Sorry, don't normally post in special needs, but you linked to the thread in the teenagers topic so I thought I'd wade in. What I mean is, my DS coped way better than I expected, and it did him a huge amount of good in terms of maturity, self-sufficiency, etc. So it was worth it.

ChirpyGhoul · 31/10/2008 19:54

How about thinking about it the other way, she will love it, she will be fine, why don't you book a night in a nice hotel or something and treat yourself?

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ewwwmy2shoesarefullofblood · 31/10/2008 22:23

Although she will be 14, she is quite "young" you know, whe hasn't had the life expereince of sleep overs, guide camp. even going to tea at a freinds house with out me. she has respite but that is at school and 1 night at a time, so I can imagine the idea will scare her.
I will get a cd to show her. so hopefully that will help/
Thanks non sn people for posting, I need reminding that although she has sn she is also a teen

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supportman · 31/10/2008 23:08

Sounds like a lovely oppertunity for her and a nice break for you 2shoes. Is there enough time for her to get used to the idea?

feelingbitbetter · 31/10/2008 23:36

6 days? Shit. That is a long time. I can't imagine 6 hours just yet
BUT, will she have this opportunity again? It sounds wonderful and from the things I've recently read about Lourdes, it seems an unbeleivably inclusive place for disabled people of all ages. I'd like to go, not for the religious experience, just because it sounds sooooo nice.
It's a difficult one, but if it was my DS, I think I'd want him to go (if he wanted to) and would probably spend 6 days pining for him. Then i'd feel immensely proud of his achievement on his return (after I had practically hugged the life out of him)
I'm tempted to say she has to go, but I can't even begin to imagine how hard this will be for you....both.

2shoespunk · 31/10/2008 23:51

it is not until easter

serin · 31/10/2008 23:54

What does she think of it all?
Will she get to know her carer before going?

TopBitch · 01/11/2008 03:22

She'll be fine, 2shoes. My dd love going on planes. She goes to Malaysia with me all the time and sometimes to Thailand too.

Lourdes is a wonderful place. I went there in 2004 around Christmas time and it was amazing.

Could you possibly ask for respite for 2 days in a row so she could have an experience of being away from you?

vjg13 · 01/11/2008 07:37

My daughter who has GDD went on a summer camp at a special school for 3 nights when she was 9 and this year (age 10) went for 4 nights. She loved it both times !! and asks when she is going again.

I did find it difficult the first time and couldn't drop her off in case I cried! I phoned each morning too to see how she was!

This year they sent us some photos and you really could tell she loved it. She gets the photos out all the time to look at and show people.

She had only spent the odd night away at grandma's before this.

2shoespunk · 01/11/2008 10:33

i tried 2 days in a row and she hated it, but I think that is cos it is at school

ladytophamhatt · 01/11/2008 10:46

2shoes, youknow I haven't got teens or SN children so I'm not really qualified to comment but I think will anyway it will be good for both/all of you.
DD will undoubtedly gain alot from the trip and you, DH and Ds will have a new experience too. Not in the way of life with DD being away but "seeing life though a differnet lens" IYSWIM.
I would imagine it'll be hard on all of you but I think its an experience that will be good for you all....

I hope that makes sense and I haven't said something wrong....

2shoespunk · 01/11/2008 12:59

thanks LTH I will be climbing the wall
ds said no she can't go........

2shoespunk · 01/11/2008 14:41

she wants to go

FlameNPumpkins · 01/11/2008 14:45

Oh it sounds fabulous

You will have MN to help you get through it

Threadworrm · 01/11/2008 15:00

Glad she wants to go. Am to admit that despite worries etc I was really glad to be free of DS1 for 5 days when he went away recentkly. Was nice to be able to focus on ds2 entirely. Is your not wanting her to go because you will be worried about how she is doing? Or is it simply that you will miss her so much?

Hope she continues to want to go and has a brill time.

2shoespunk · 01/11/2008 17:57

xos I will miss her

MABS · 01/11/2008 19:07

if she wants to go 2shoes,you know what you have to do hun.sounds like a marvellous experience x

hissbangwhoosh · 01/11/2008 22:27

oh i know Mabs, you know her school and how good they are. so I know she will be fine.
but me, oh dear...........
and ds hates the idea of her going on a plane. ffs silly boy

ladytophamhatt · 02/11/2008 08:28

What a lovely brother she has....

SparklyGothKat · 02/11/2008 08:40

DD1's carer asked if she could take dd1 to disney land in paris in april, I was like and [nooooo] but we decided to let her go...

2shoeshissbangwhoosh · 02/11/2008 12:20

I don't know waht country lourdes is in yikes. must look it up

ladytophamhatt · 02/11/2008 12:21

Isn't it in teh south of france?