shit please not the sp$$$$ word again

[2shoesdrippingwithblood]

ffs they are 16!!!!!
ds is at college. I really thought it was all over, the one boy who had used it a lot at secondty is now quiet as he hasn't got his big mates arround. but now there is a new boy doing it. he cam up to ds today and said "I hear your sister is a spaz"
so now ds has got into trouble for making his nose bleed.
the other boy got it to trouble, but of course the college have said " he has sn" ffs.
I am just so fed up with it, when will it end. ds is a good lad and loves his sis, he doen't deserve this.

before anyone says ds shouldn't have hit him. remember he has had years of this crap and he adores his sister and believes disabled people are equal.

Obviously people can't just say whatever they like. Not justifying it or saying it's OK. It's horrible for 2shoes's ds. I'm not saying that SN is an excuse - but it would certainly explain my J doing something like that and yeah, I expect my son's Headteacher to react differently when J calls him a dweeb than he would when someone without SN calling him a dweeb, because J does not have the understanding of what he's saying that other kids have. Would still then work with him on not calling people dweebs though, obviously.

Have managed to piss people off without meaning to, but I'll just go away now and say poor 2shoes's ds and it's great that he wants to stick up for his sister and a shame that so much has happened in the past that's meant he's had to.

I think its a rather large assumption that the other boy has Aspergers syndrome. The college says 'ha has sn' and tbh that could mean anything. My friends, friends daughter has aspergers syndrome and she would never dream of calling dd or my friends dd a spaz. She has however asked my friend when her baby was due and asked me when i am going back the army. All in innocence, you see , and totally different from BULLYING someone about their sister

good for your ds 2shoes

2shoes your DS sounds so lovely (and he has great taset in music). I hope my older three are the same.

givemesleep, this biy knows what he is saying, it is not just a silly comment, more like a deliberate attack iynwim

I am with MadMouse! Totally.

I wasn't assuming he had AS, I was just surprised at the sceptical reaction to the term SN, esp given that so many mums on this board complain of the big negative assumptions people make about their kids with hidden disabilities.

I wasn't assuming he had AS, I was just surprised at the sceptical reaction to the term SN, esp given that so many mums on this board complain of the big negative assumptions people make about their kids with hidden disabilities.

oops doubleposted!

sorry don't get it,
so I am supposed to worry about an non existent poster?

my dd (9) and my ds (7)severe ASD are at the same MS school. I am so proud when she defends her brother.

Your ds sounds a lovely lad who was defending a member of his family. He recognises he shouldn't have hit and accepts the consequences which sounds very mature.

sorry he dorsn't think he shouldn't have hit the boy, as far as he is concerned thatw as the right thing to do. he has tried other ways in the past and found that a smack in the mouth normally works best.
but he took his punishment on the chin. as he knows he broke the rules.