We had our diagnosis of HFA a couple of weeks ago. While I was expecting it once I had heard I suppose I did go on to a bit of downer and was looking at all rather negatively really. Been a bit doom and gloomy.
Today I spoke to his teacher and I asked how he is interacting with the other kids. She said that he makes up elaborate games, setting up tracks and vehicles and traffic scenes etc, which attract all the other kids and they all want to play with him because of these fab games he comes up with. It was a bit of a light bulb moment. Yes he has HFA but to the other kids at school he is just the kid who makes up fab games for them to play and is a bit shouty in assembly. Made me see that he is not defined by his ASD, it is just part of him and of all people his mother should see that and not let every waking moment be about "dealing" with it. I think I was in danger of becoming like that.
Just wanted to share that with someone because I felt really happy after I spoke to her.