Feeling very strange about DS2's operation on Tuesday

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So after many tests and consultations we have decided to go ahead and have DS2's palate repaired in order to help his speech.

Whilst we are both obviously nervous about the operation and recovery itself, I also feel strange about what we are (hopefully) going to be achieving.

DS2 is doing well in mainstream school, he's in reception with full one to one help via his statement, he signs, he's happy, he's sociable and he's learning. I can't help feeling that we are trying to change him. I don't ever want him to think that I don't think him perfect already. Because he is. We are doing this for the adult he is to become.

He is very likely to have some kind of learning disability and we just want to give him the best chance, but it's a nasty old operation and he will be in a great deal of pain.

Sorry for blabbering on, just feel ever so slightly crackers, as the tears are flowing easily today.

Good luck next week. A friend's dd has had a couple of similar ops and they are v pleased. You are making a decision to help in the best way you can I think, and help him fulfil his potential. x

Thanks PP It's good to hear of your friends success.

We took a long time to reach the decision as he has problems with his immunity and respiratory system, but feel confident that all is okay to go ahead now.

I guess it's also down to only being given Tuesday's date on Thursday just gone. We had originally been given a date in January! Blind panic has set in I think!

Of course you are jittery, but you have made the decision after lots of thought, and I am sure it will be a very good thing.

It's totally different, but we were so concerned after we decided to go ahead with a squint op for dd. We didn't want her to think we were trying to 'improve' her appearance, because we loved her whatever. But we decided that, as she also had a visual field deficit which stood to be made slightly better by surgery we would go ahead and decide for her. We are now so glad we agreed it last summer.

Not the same, but just trying to make a small comparison xx