all i know is it's strange how for something that is 'numerically' so rare... you know 'only 1 in so many 1000 are affected'......yet like you said almost everyone either has an autistic relative...or works with Autism....or has an Autistic child in their childs class etc etc!!!
Eg: we have lived in this hiouse for 8 years....
and i have 2 out of 3 sons dx with AS
my neighbours son is dyslexic
ex-neighbour has 3 out of 4 dx with ASD
another ex neighbour has 1 out of 2 dx with ASD....all this within a stones throw....i only know the people within say 3 or 4 houses either side of my house.
There are many 'illnesses/disabilities/disorders'... that are supposedly more common...and yet i still know more people affected by autism than these added together.
indeed...often i feel 'gulity' as if you look @ the SN threads here on MN...the majority are about ASD
As an adult who is probably one of the 'undiagnosed AS children' ....i do think in some way that years ago there were may austistic children who nowadays would be picked up and 'labeled'.... back then 'they' were the :
daydreamers
slow ones
disruptive kids
mis-fits
gifted
eccentrics
mathmaticians
scientists
and there were not all the screening tools that we have access to now.
back tthen if you had a 'withdrawn quiet child' he was labeled SHY. If he was however lively and talkitive he was 'just' a bit 'Hyper'.
so now toddlers are being 'picked up' as being possibly ASD...when before they we 'just miserable babies' or 'contented' or 'gonna be a bright child' etc
My son has a friend who i am 99.9% certain is AS too....but his parents still believe at age 11 - that he needs a Firm hand- and he will 'grow out of it'
Because i am well convered with AS now i 'try ' things out on him...in that i deliberately try to engage him in small talk...and he cannot. Or i use a very literal pjrase and he ....takes me literally etc....he is such a wonderful child and so innocent- and yet he goes up to secondary school this year- and i bet he will be 'noticed ' there.... as at primary school it seems that as long as the child isn't disruptive- and the parents don't insist the child has a problem,,,,then they are let be,,,then when they move to secondary the bullying starts...and they get lost in a large school etc.....
so in his case (if i'm right'...) he will become another statistic when he is diagnosed ....buy i've known him for 9 years ....and tecnically he has been ASD all that time...yet he will only become a 'statistic' once he is dfiagnosed
does that make sense????
Bit like it's only relitively recently that we are able to save lives that would have been lost years ago to things like cancer and heart attacks.....due to miracles of modern medice....look at the women that dies in childbirth in the past that are now diagnosed with preeclamsia...and are cared for and traeted so they survive what used to be a common cause of death in child birth.... those diseases were ALWAYS there... it's jiust now we can in many case diagnose and 'cure/prevent' them from becoming fatal;
hope i make sense!!!
This Japanese 'MMR' thing on the news kind of says that they stopped MMR and autism still increased.... to me still doesn't convince me that IT doesn't 'trigger' or 'impact' autism...but that deserves it's own thread!!!!