Dd is just 9 and has a dx of AS and adhd. She has gone to a superb ms drama group for over 2 years and we have never had any problems.
Dd knows she has sn but really isn't ready (we have broached it) to know exactly what it is she has but we talk about it in terms of sometimes you struggle with a, b, c and this seems to be good enough.
Anyway today a new boy had started and I didn't pay much attention.
Dd came out and the first thing she said was mum there's another child with autism that is in my group. I was like who is the other one??? She said me,again another big shocked face needed.
Apparently drama teacher had said infront of whole class (about 15) dd and this boy have autism.
I am angry because when I started dd there the owner said that children with sn were intergrated and no body really knew who had what or even if they had sn at all (obviously children pick up on oddities I am sure). I liked that approach as it meant that dd was treated the same as everyone else.
I said to dd what is autism and she said she doesn't know.
We have talked to camhs and asd outreach about this and we were all going to work together and decide when dd would be ready,which isn't now.
Even if dd had played up (she didn't) why not just say oh you know dd can sometimes have difficulties with communication,talking etc and that would be enough for most children.
I think it should be up to me who knows very personal info about dd. You these children all live round here and again it is my decision when to disclose or not.
I feel sad that dd has had to find out in such an insensitive manner but don't want to take her out as on the whole the drama teacher is excellent.
What can I do/say and am I right to be so upset??? thank you x