Thank you again for your responses. It has thrown me a bit, because up until now I thought that
a) She's 2.
b) She's an active child
c) I must just be a bad mum who can't keep my child under control.
It is exhausting at home. We have stair gates across her bedroom door, so she can't escape at night, the top and bottom of the stairs, the kitchen (so she can't get in and throw all of the dog food in his water bowl), and the porch (so she can't escape up the driveway and onto the road).
She does like to be moving a lot. Her favourite thing at the moment is running, and she will do things like roly-polys all the way home from pre-school. She will balance on the end of the sofa, and fall forwards onto it, or climb up on top of it. She often climbs on the dining room table in the lounge.
However, in the last 6 months or so, for the first time she has been interested in television. Until then she would never sit still enough to watch it. Now she will sit and watch programs.
TC, I would say you are right, although her delay in walking has shown itself in a marked immaturity in running, etc. She often falls because her legs do not seem to properly co-ordinate together. It is like she lifts them side to side, tipping her ankles out, rather than lifting at the knee.
But mentally I would say she is very bright. She is very inquisitive, and from an early age needed to know how things work. She would lift up the seat of her highchair to see where the strap located in the seat. She would get a pencil and try to undo screws on her toys, and if DH leaves a screwdriver in her reach she knows instinctively exactly what to do with it. She likes to take things apart, I think because she has to know what it is. It does mean that the craft she did in the morning rarely survives the day.
Sorry to go on. I just worry for her now, that maybe I haven't seen a major problem.
My brother-in-law said to my DH (not in my hearing) that we 'just need to be firmer with her' and that would sort her out, a few weeks ago. I am at a loss to know how I could be. If she behaves badly she sits on the naughty step. If she gets in a state she has to sit on the calm down chair until she can be calm. If she upsets someone she has to apologise, and she does. Smacking doesn't work for her - the compulsion to do whatever it is that she shouldn't be doing is just so big that it outweighs any discipline she knows it will lead to. She knows when she has been naughty, and sometimes she will even say "It's not funny, it's very very naughty."