Is this normal 5yr old, AS, or SB (spoilt brat) - and how do I stop it with either answer!!

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SB being Spoilt Brat

Flamechick tells me I am wrong and argues about it. This morning's example - people working in a garden. DS pointed them out. So I replied that they were gardeners.

DD: No they aren't they are builders.

Me: No, look, it says Gardeners on their van.

Cue her going on and on that they were builders and I was wrong.

I feel it is bloody rude to correct an adult (I will accept when I am wrong and say so - to her obv, never with DH ). She argues that it isn't. I get worked up and it turns into this huge issue.

So.... is it a) rude, b) normal and/or c) hwo do I deal with it???

Sounds normal to me (well normal for my 4.6 year old (as)dd)

DD argues about evrything, i just agree or ingnore her , i think sometimes she is just looking for an argument and because of her AS she always has to have the final word.

Sometimes i just think she is a spoilt brat and people that don't know she has AS must think she's rude or naughty.

normal-ish in an exerting independence sort of way. but i would never get into an argument about it. i am the grown-up.
just don't argue with him. he'll get nothing out of disagreeing with you then...
make your point and then leave it alone.

meant normal in an un-as way btw. all 3 of mine have done it at that point and we are allegedly as-free.

pmsl @ "they'll teach you to read at school"

Sorry, but I think an adult who needs a 5yo to agree that she is right over such a trivial thing has a touch of SB syndrome As for how to stop it - pick your battles!!!

It is the answering back than agreeing I am right

I think it may be normal, a bit attention seeking but normal.

My AS DS wouldn't do it but my NT DS would argue. He hates to be wrong and he can't read either yet so I can't appeal to his sense of logic(he's 5 on Sunday)

Actually he reminds me a lot of DH (although DH can of course read)

I would just say 'If thats what you think, OK but it says they are gardeners on the van' and then leave it at that. No room for argument, quick change of subject asap.

Unfortunately in our house DS1 would then probably try to 'convince' DS2 that he was wrong by arguing with him and then if that didn't work, it would turn into a shouting match, and quite possibly a wrestling match in the street.

All pretence of ignoring silliness of DS2 is lost.

it is good to know it is an NT thing!! I feel like I have more of a handle on dealing with things that are NT

Me, I'd be asking them why they thought they were builders not gardeners. There again, two aspies can argue each other to a standstill

lol - sounds like fun

I am aware that I am too stubborn for my own good and sometimes I should let it slide, but it just feels like answering back

Flame this upsets me with ds too - it sounds so rude to tell an allknowing adult they are wrong! Agree that the answer is not to get drawn in - at all! Ds will try and try to get a rise. Sometimes it is a genuine confusion (he clearly thinks he is right), and sometimes he he try to argue black is white or more likely it is not bedtime yet! His teachers also comment.

Why is it that when it's our DC's it's answering back and when it's an adult, it's expressing their opinion? And at what age do they become entitled to their opinions?

This is a real 'pick your battles' moment why on earth have an argument with any child AS or not over something so trivial - draw a line under it and refuse to get drawn in any further, you'll never win (in his mind) and it just teaches him that arguing till he's blue in the face is ok ...

In my defence - very little sleep, both kids had been hell all morning, and they were gardeners!