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It' s Day Five in the Peachy term and already we're one stand up row with teacher down.... thanks be for the DDA!

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Peachy · 08/09/2008 16:14

We have new school meal rules: only milk at break, only water rest of day.

Harry is intolerant to milk, will only spit out water- attempts to get him to drink it resulted in abandonment of the idea rather rapidly!

So today he takes in his usual snack- squash and a 100% dried fruit bar (letter says only fresh or dried fruit)

No calls frm school, I was ome all da

Teacher marches out- holding full drink and snack- both confiscated on arrival: poor kid had no drink all day (had lunch to eatbut had t sit watch other kids eat snacks)

teacher tells me its hard luck, better go sort with head, she's not interested (Cow)

lckily last term i'd have been scared, i have been working on developing my inner tigress (read nineteen by jodi picoult, realised that could be sam if I didnt buck up my ideas)

So I head ver to head, luckly his old 1-1 is in the foyer and can back me up that Harry won't have water. Secretary is shaking her head, second asd kid affewcted this way today!

1-1 tells me harry was sat alone crying at lunchtime but because of poor vocab couldn't tell her what was up.

Lady in charge of food comes over (nursery teacher----??) and sas its the new welsh assembly rules; I point out that the DDA supersedes tis and sefco is behind me nodding fervently

he canhave non-warer now if I send a letter and teacher was bullshitting about the dried fruit not being OK but aarrrrgggghhhhh here we go again

feel right proud of myself though for sorting it and nor being a wuss or calling dh in

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PheasantPlucker · 09/09/2008 20:33

Keep going girl. This is so sad. But stick to your guns.

Peachy · 09/09/2008 22:55

Going to take dh over with me tomorrow and just ask

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TotalChaos · 10/09/2008 19:46

what's the latest on the drink situation?

SammyK · 10/09/2008 19:54

Aw your poor ds. I think the school do need to approach him and apologise to him and explain he can have his drink, and that they were wrong.

Good for you being so strong for him.

sphil · 10/09/2008 22:22

This is unbelievable . DS2's school also has this policy but he has watered down juice because he won't take his supplements otherwise. Mind you, he has it in a sports bottle so not many people realise it's not water. Why do some schools insist on this ridiculous 'one size fits all' policy?

eidsvold · 10/09/2008 22:33

omg - not on. I sneakily got around it by having a non see through plastic drink bottle which I could do half juice and half water. It was only one morning when we had been to the hospital and was filling dd1's drink bottle in front of teacher and aide that I was questioned later in the day. They still let dd1 have her drink but asked me very politely at the end of the day if there was a reason she has watered down juice. I explained why and they were fine with it.

Good on you for standing up for your ds!!

mabanana · 12/09/2008 22:17

Peachy, my ds has Aspergers and experiences hunger really weirdly - he doesn't feel hunger, he just completely melts down and has low blood sugar. He also has dyspraxia which meant he couldn't peel fruit or chew hard fruit with skin without getting exhausted. Also fruit didn't fill him up enough. At home he has three meals and two healthy but substantial snacks, like peanut butter sandwich or malt loaf. At first I was told he couldn't have a snack as otherwise all the kids would want one (the usual crap). SO every single bloody morning at about 11am he'd completely melt down, throw chairs, get hysterical, try to run away. The lot. We were told he was unmanageable and we had to have him home for lunch, and they kept sending him home. I called a meeting with everyone I could think of. Pointed out that they called me at the same time every bloody time and it was due to hunger and he had AS and he NEEDED to eat, and he had a 1-1 who could give him the snack privately. I was really really angry and didn't hold back much in the meeting. I asked if they'd refuse a wheelchair to a kid with no legs because otherwise 'they'd all want one'? In the end they did back down...and guess what? No more meltdowns. It's just so wrong. Why don't schools realise kids with special needs have special needs!

mabanana · 12/09/2008 22:18

Oh and my ds is slim with an ideal healthy kids BMI, so it's hardly an obesity issue!

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