sooooo fed up

[Jimjams]

i have cabin fever, and no help today so am housebound. been awake since 4am. have a pile of things to go to the post office- can't take them. ds1 is bored and keeps climbing on everything and leaning against ropey windows; can't think what to do with him.

aaagghh i can hear loads of things crashing off the work surfaces (sounds as if he's in the microwave) and don't have the energy to stop feeding babe and go and see to him.

think i feel better now.

Twiglett...i LAUGHED at your post!!!! Slap my wrists!!!!!

I read that as "smell of 9-month old vomit"! I was just about to hand you the prize there, Twiglett.

Ds2 is wearing just a nappy. He strips off at home. Socks and shoes are a definite no-no.

J doesnt wear them AT ALL......although he does have one pair he likes to fill with marbles!!!!

Going now to tidy up.....catch you all later.xxxx

don't even mention ss to me. direct payments??? hello??? yep been awarded them, opened my bank account, am I getting them??? no. So who has to chase up people (you can't get hold of as they're always in meetings) to do their jobs? Yep that's right bloody muggings here. And that's another holiday without help.

And that's a loud crash from the kitched. f*

nothing broken and ds1 was in the bathroom standing in the sink by the time I got to hin (it's not strong enough for him)

Yesterday was great- my mum had a day off so she looked after baby and ds2 and I took ds1 out junk mailing with me (delivering leaflets to doo with one of my businesses). He oved it- all thoose letterboxes to look through- only problem was that he kept trying to press the bells- only managed to make it to one (and luckily they were out- I scurried down the street).

Going to try and do that regularly- something we can do together.

Don't get me wrong-but it's so good to hear that you are all having a bad time too!!

My worst day was Tuesday, ds does not have a good influence on dd some times and they were both really hyper all day! I went from room to room, clearing up after them, ds knocked a glass out of the dresser, when I had finished clearing that up, I went into the front room where dd had "de-leafed" my pot plant! Cleaned that up and made myself a cuppa (if you can remember what one of those is!)only to find dd had dismantled the shelves and baskets (we have those one that hook together IYKWIM) and I had ALL the toys , everywhere. I just didn't have the energy left to even put them back together and left it for DH!
I think it made it worse because I had so many little plans. I wanted to make cakes with them, or do something NICE for a change!
Still I suppose I can't really moan, they are both sitting down engrossed in Peter Pan ATM! I should make myself a quick cuppa while I have the chance!

and how come eye contact is absolutely perfect when they are being naughty???

jimjams, are you still on?
just wanted to ask you a quick questions. If you get direct payments, can you get them on top of say a playscheme place? Its just i have SS coming round mid march and I am going to ask for a playscheme place but am worried, it will be full, but thats another thing. but if I ahd direct payments could I pay ds's nursery to have dd? as they have offered and they are insured?

can i have both or only one? and would the payments cover this?

confused message I know, hope you are alright

I think- but check- you can't use them to buy outside services in the form of playschemes etc (but that may be changing and I could be wrong). Do ask about it. In our case they've totalled up the numberof hours they would be providing in terms of playschemes, weekend respite etc and then given ius the dp equivalent.

hope you're well - I'm fine just going a bit stir crazy. I shouldn't complain though as this half term has been much better than expected (I was dreading it).

I can use them to pay for someone to look after ds3 whilst I look after ds1 though-- so that's a bit odd (I thought- but helpful as much easier to find someone for ds3).

Fio, hope you don't mind if I answer. I thought that it was playscheme OR DPs but then was told no, you can have both!!! At least if you get the DPs it is definite and regular and a playscheme place is a bonus. I don't think you can use DPs to pay for nursery as it is supposed to pay for a carer/helper who is employed direct by you but then you can get them to do whatever helps you. I had a delay once they had agreed to DPs as I couldn't find someone to ask to agree to be treated as an employee and get paid PAYE etc.
My DS was a nightmare at the beginning of this week, screaming and crying, SIB etc. Seemed to turn around on Weds when he had his first reasonable time with me alone and is now driving me mad laughing and jumping around, sitting on me etc! At least we had 2 days playscheme, saved my sanity and fitted in well with the help I can get with DD.

Poor old ds2 ended the day with his head being shut in a cupboard door by ds1. It was obvoous ds1 diidn't even know he was there- he just wanted the door shut and it wouldn't shut. (God knnos hw he could miss ds2's head- it's huge). Cue me taking the opportunity to try and explain a bit more about autism to ds2. Didn't get very far "why mummy?" to everything I said.

My Ds is actually a complete angel and so easy to look after you wouldn't know he was in the house. PROVIDED he's allowed to spend all day on the pc or playstation, dressed only in a nappy. The problems only start when I try to get him into clothes and out of the house. I feel far too guilty just letting him vegetate, plus it is dd's holiday too, so we have tried to get out somewhere every day. I have to get myself ready before I wrestle ds into his clothes as they will be off again if I turn my back or nip to the loo. Then I have to manhandle him out of the door and up the road to the car, try to do up the car sear with him struggling to get out and screaming. That's before we even go anywhere. I tell you, my back is killing me! He may be small but he's strong and very determined. I know I'm lucky that he's the youngest, otherwise we'd be trapped in the house a lot more. At least we CAN get out, unlike a lot of you poor things. I'm not surprised you are fed up!

Well it's Saturday, ABA day and can breathe a sigh of relief, no longer housebound. DH is going to take ds1 out after his ABA sesssion.

DS2 has more or less clicked with toilet training at last as well (despite falling headfirst off the toilet this morning).

Roll on Monday.

Hope today is a bit more restful, Jimjams.

On the home run then everyone?!! But we've got a sodding inset day on Monday. Luckily one of the mums at school has organised her DS's birthday party for that morning, although it was a few weeks ago, so we can all get together and have a good goss while all the ASD kids get stuck in the kids' torture chamber (Fantasy Island soft play!).

just found ds1 hanging his head and chest out of a first floor window (always been safe before as he couldn't get to it). Soooo many of our wondows need replacing. Aagh!

ABA tutor here now, no screaming and only one bolt around the hoouse so far

Happened with us about 2 years ago with dd jimjams so I lock that door now. Worse thing was it was my neighbour who knocked to tell me I am not sure how ds is but dd is so quick, I mean it was literally a minute or 2 and she had got up at the window.

Another afternoon from hell here. If anyone was in Asda today and saw a small boy in the frozen food section screaming the place down while simultaneously undressng, yes that was us! Good old ds2. Apologies to the unfortunate passer-by who 'caught' ds2's shoe for us.

Coppertop, Asda on a saturday with 2 ds's You are braver than I am that's for sure!

I'm sorry you're having a crap time JJ - can't imagine how hard it must be (I struggled with a new baby and a NT child). Glad you can get out today, at least.