how much of DS4's behaviour is due to him being 3y/o and wether theres anything 'lurking beneath'...
He HAS to have his own way - major wobbly if things arent quite right, usually really unimportant stuff to 'us normal people' . If hes playing or doing something and we need to go, or change what hes doing.
Needs to have things just so, IE food on the same plate, blankets in bed just so, etc.
His need to have most of his words repeated, by the listener 2 or 3 times. Endless rounds of any particular song each day. 'Parrots' phrases used in programmes hes seen - but usually in some (sometimes obscure) context. IE dora the explorers "count with me" (exact intonation), but when he is counting stuff, thomas tank engines exclaimation "cinders and ashes!" if hes dropped something.
Hes really stroppy about most stuff and so uptight about everything! was quite a fussy baby.
No mannerisms to speak of (except likes stacking/lining BUT NOT excessively - but more than the others ever have. Also needs his blankie wherever we go), milestones on time, average illnesses, no allergies, just longsighted (wears glasses - with a fight!)
DS1 is ADHD, DS5 is Autistic... perhaps im looking too hard??? Is this typical stroppy toddlerhood, or something more sinister?