I suupose I should be grateful that DS4 isn't seen as a child with obvious SN but I am getting weary of comments from people who don't really know us.

[MehgaLegs]

He is 3, he is tall but developmentally he is at about the 20 month mark. He is full of beans, gabbles away in his own little world, waving and smiling at every one. He is growing stronger and walks quite well now but will deffo need a pushchair for a long time yet (even if it is to contain him on school run).

Another mum, who I know quite well, (fellow mum of four, same ages as mine) she is a highly intelligent woman - college professor, lectures in Education. I see her twice a week on school run and she always says the wrong thing. "Is DS4 out of nappies yet, oh you must potty train." " Are you still using the pushchair, oh Megha you must ditch the pushchair the freedom is great" " Does he just chatter all the time, my DS just chatters to me all day, he never stops asking questions" etc.. I know I have explained to her that my DS4 has GDD but she still does it. Today another mum said "Oh he is much too big for that pushchair " I just sort of looked at her.

I don't know the purpose of this post, just a rant I suppose but I wish people would just fuck off sometimes.

Deleted, like the cybermen do, now that would be good.

Sorry, nothing to add that hasn't been said, but just wanted to say hi having read your posts, and I hope the advice of the others helps.

Incidentally on a bus recently dd1 was in Mclaren Major, on way home from physio at hosp. Parked in the wheelchair bit on the bus. A mother got on with a toddler in a pushchair and asked us to move as 'dd1 far too old to be in chair'. I pointed out it was a SN buggy, that the space was for people with disabilities like my dd1, but I would happily share the space with her. (DD1 is in Piedros, leg splints, hand splints etc etc, so quite obviously has physical issues). Woman just looked mutinous. I so wanted to be rude to her, but just kept quiet.

People can be so insensitive and self obsessed.

But have a nice weekend with your fanmily. No school till Monday!!

I remember when I had DS1 with me in his pushchair when I had to visit my midwife.

My normal midwife was away, so I had a stand in one that I had never met before.

Within a few minutes of being there, she looked at DS1 and said "is he always that lazy?", I immediately saw red at her ignorance and replied with "no, he's always that autistic!".

She didn't know where to put her face and couldn't apologise enough, I like to think that she will now think twice before making assumptions and making unthoughtful comments.

I sympathise Megalegs! I can never manage a witty repost in time! I usually just confuse people more with my comments that ds hasn't worked out gravity yet! If it is any consolation it does change, those disaproving looks and confused comments were common when ds was a tall 3-4 year old, but now he is older (age 8, has the understanding and behaviour of a preschool child) - the silly competative comments are rare! Good idea to arm yourself with witty comments.