Ds(8 yrs old, hfa) has been throughout his school years (from pre-school to juniors) really difficult to manage. Countless times over the years I've been called in due to his behaviour and aggression, and although I've been pissed off with it(not so much with ds but more with how his condition effects him so much) that I've also come to accept it as the norm.
He's got a statement and started out in his new juniors as mainstream but it was fairly evident early on that he couldn't cope and so was moved on to their language unit. (This was done more out of the problems with behaviour and anxiety in a mainstream setting rather than a serious language problem)
Problem is, and it shouldn't even be a problem, but over the last few weeks his home/school book has shown such outstanding behaviour, he's getting loads of stickers and certificates, it's incredible. In it they have said he's made such good progress and yet I've recently seen his school books and it's been really poor. For instance, a maths lesson just appears to be a really poor effort of writing numbers and squiggles, and English...well, they seem to be happy if he just writes a few words, which doesn't actually apply to any work they've just done.
Oh my, here I go, I've had a few so I do not hold responsibility for anything I write!
Thing is, and I find this hard to explain, but after all the gushing reports of ds(and it was and yes I am proud....)why the hell does he react in such an awful way when I take him to the park. He growls all the time and flaps, is aggressive and can't even tolerate any child talking to him. It's making me feel totally inadequate as a parent. For example, when he found it difficult to wait for the the swingy thing he just erupted and typically he was the focus of the playground, but yet he seems to be coping exceptionally well at school, I don't know. It's mixed emotions, I'm really ahhpy if it's true, but I just can't see how all of a sudden he can adjust, he just doesn't behave for anyones benefit.
Next week I've got to go on school trip with him and I'm worried that I'm just going to confirm that I can't cope with him!!!! For all parents and teachers to see!!! I should say though that after a school year of being at that school they've still not managed to get ds to participate with any P.E activities. He just will not do it, and they know it's not worth pursuing it, not for this school year anyway, he reacts too stongly - which gives you an idea of what he can be like.
Please don't answer me if I've spoke a load of bollox again, I will slowly get the hint!!