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AS & end of term hell

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Flamesparrow · 04/07/2008 20:50

Just wanted to see if anyone else is going through the same and wants some mutual hand holding!

Flamechick is tired, I know that, it is the end of her first year at school and even the energiser bunny that she is, she is wiped out.

School is all unsettled what with it being end of term and everything winding down.

She knows she will be changing teacher next year, changing classroom, but hasn't had the shuffle yet to meet her new teacher/see the room, so again, that is unsettling for her.

From my end, I have been slack with her diet (also tired!!!), and again - it doesn't help.

So, all mixed together, she is finding the world so hard. Tears every day. Most days at least one screaming, laying on the floor fist banging toddler style meltdown.

I know we will get through this. I am trying to get on top of the diet, and keep everything as calm and normal at home as possible. We're ignoring the meltdowns as they happen (it keeps us calmer, which is ultimately the best thing) and then giving lots of cuddles when she is done.

Just wanted to check I'm not alone, and let you others know YOU aren't alone too!!!

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luckylady74 · 04/07/2008 22:34

It's a bit wappy here - lots of 'affectionate' throttling of ds2 by as ds1 and lots of screaming - I find it hard because this will continue through the structure lacking holidays and the settling into new class - so roll on next um November!!!
On the other hand his report was lovely and he's had an invite to a party today so blessings counted!

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Flamesparrow · 05/07/2008 08:41

I am trying to convince myself that holidays will be fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine (in other words, burying head in sand until we get past the end of term )

We also had a lovely report and party invite though Did have to snigger at her report "Copes well with the school routines" No sh*t?

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Tclanger · 05/07/2008 08:45

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streakybacon · 05/07/2008 10:18

Not so much tears and tantrums here, more generally unsettled. Can't get ds to function without my support, he's so dithery, distracted, can't concentrate for more than a few seconds, getting cross with himself as a result. Had a few fighty episodes at school when it's all been too much to cope with. But definitely end-of-year-itis, we get it every year.

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allytjd · 05/07/2008 10:49

We call it "end of term-itis" in this house. Actually it was a bit better than normal this year but a week into the holidays DS2 is starting to look a bit miserable due to boredom so it looks as though my week of relaxation is over as i will have to provide more "activities" from now on. Mind you last year DS2 developed OCD for the first time right at the end of term so I'm not really complaining about the boredom!

BriocheDoree · 05/07/2008 10:57

We haven't had too much bad behaviour, but lots more spaced out episodes (too tired to cope with the world!) and here first day of the hols we have a temperature and throwing up from a DD who is NEVER ill! However, there was all sorts of grot going round school last week (e.g. scarlet fever) so lets hope it's nothing serious. Splashed out on tickets for Disneyland Paris tomorrow so would really like it to be just "end of term-itis" (yes, we use the same phrase here too!)

TotalChaos · 05/07/2008 11:21

I think it's the beginning of term that will freak DS out - as although he has the same teachers, the current Reception kids will be leaving, and there will be an intake of newer younger children. Oh and of course the school day will go from 2.5 hours to 6 hours.

jenk1 · 05/07/2008 11:39

DREADING IT.

It will be the first time that DS and DD will be together for weeks on end cos last year she was in daycare.

DS doesnt break up until 31 July and is only off for just over 4 weeks so not too bad but boy am i dreading it, they will attempt to kill each other at least probably once a day, but at least me and dh are at home (he lost his job but decided to become a full time carer for dd and its been much easier).

lots of activities and im doing them their own individual timetable as that hopefully will help them remain calmer.

lots and lots of rose wine at night me thinks!!!

WedgiesMum · 05/07/2008 21:27

Roll on the holidays I say.

We are just working ourselves into a high old state worring about september and getting excluded again - so much so that he has just had an exclusion! Always the same and school never learn......

I'm just going to stick my fingers in my ears and go BLAH BLAH BLAH for the next couple of weeks just like he does......

Widemouthfrog · 05/07/2008 21:38

My DS generally unsettled too - lots of school refusal and tantrums. He knows he is getting a new teacher and a new classroom - he asked if he was going to get a new mum aswell.

School holidays will undo everything we worked to build up this year, so September should be fun. He just loves being at home with mum.

Seuss · 05/07/2008 22:07

Sorry for you guys but glad to hear we are not alone! I was trying to explain the end-of-term-itis to ds' teacher on Friday - I think she thinks there is more to it but I'm sure there isn't as I notice the same thing every term.

coppertop · 07/07/2008 10:32

This all sounds very familiar.

Ds2 (5 & AS) is finding it difficult atm. The usual routine at school keeps changing because of things like sports days, special assemblies etc. They also seem to be going over work they've done before to make sure they can do it, and ds2 is bored.

The visit to his new class has helped though. His new teacher seems really nice and ds2 likes her. The only downside is that ds2 now wants to be a Yr1 boy immediately and doesn't see why he should have to wait until September.

Ds1 (8 & ASD) is coping a little better but is finding the change difficult. The things everyone else looks forward to are the things he's not so keen on (sports day, parties, visits etc) but enjoys the things that the others dislike (end-of-term assessments and tests).

Both boys are looking forward to the holidays.

Seuss · 07/07/2008 17:25

I hate end of term - I'm sure my dc's various schools and playgroups have been looking at my diary and deliberately planned all their events for the same day. On top of that all the fetes/sportsdays etc are making the little darlings increasingly knackered and grumpy - not to mention me. On top of all that all of that I have to make cakes for absolutely everything and I can't even make cakes.grrrrrrrrrrr how much longer?

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sphil · 07/07/2008 21:15

CT - how funny - DS1 was only this evening bemoaning the end of SATs and saying how they were much more 'interesting' than what he's doing atm!

We have got the end of term twitch back - last year it was a kind of pretend yawn; this year it's a a screwing up of the nose. He's doing it about once every 30 secs! Also the mid-sentence stutter has come back and the ENDLESS talking about Dragonfable, drawing of characters from Dragonfable, wanting me to play games based on Dragonfable......

Roll on the holidays - willing to bet all this has gone by two weeks in.

DS2, however, is exactly the same as ever - it all washes over him . He is in two races on sports day - watch this space.

allytjd · 07/07/2008 21:43

I spoke too soon about DS2 being better than normal this year, he has developed a strange scratching habit, repetitively scratching a line down either side of his nose and a couple of other places that he claims are "itchy" at times he looks as though he is making the sign of the cross!

unfitmother · 08/07/2008 20:32

DS is changing schools as he starts High school in Sept!
I can't wait for the term to end, DH went in to see the Head to ask them to stop calling us in each time DS loses his temper or swears. He can't cope with being off timetable, they've agreed to send us a note instaed.

catok · 08/07/2008 22:53

DS doesn't 'break up' for another 2 weeks ( a year ago this phrase brought total panic - he thought he would be in pieces on the last day!)
He's having flashes of anger, saying "Ummmm" endlessly and sleeping very late.
Flamesparrow - thanks for this thread! It's strangely comforting to know everybody's AS children are twitchy and repetitive!

JeanieG · 09/07/2008 11:46

Hi,

Can I join in the hand holding here. We are having a bit of a nightmare here with DS. He is just finishing year 7 and is very unsettled by the thought that he wont get to go for 6 weeks, so has signed himself up to summer school.

He has been even more vacant and forgetful than usual. I feel like I am permanently on at him and I really don't want to be.

Feel like a crap mum at the moment.

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