Child not listening or taking advice

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DD has an art scholarship.

She is great at art when she tries and wanted the scholarship.

DD is also autistic

I’m also arty and have slot of experience

DD won’t let me help to the point she has a meltdown. Think telling her she’s using the wrong materials or paper. At the moment she as a result is producing substandard work.

I don’t want her to lose the scholarship as that will be a significant impact on her self esteem.

any advice.

My autistic DD is the the same. Teachers had to let her figure out pencil grip herself, as trying to show her would cause her to get upset and disengage from the task altogether.
Could you try finding the advice you want to give her in a book, website or YouTube video. And either show her or leave the book/print out lying around for her to find herself.
Or just leave the better materials lying around or start doing something with them yourself to make her curious about them.
Sometimes if you try to show autistic children how to do something directly they feel like you are critising them.

Personally, I would leave her be.

I’m not necessarily sure this is a difficulty 100% associated with having additional needs. It is fairly typical for some teens to not want their parents to help with school work.