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Struggling with my nine-year-old and possible PDA behaviours

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AmusedLemonFatball · Yesterday 07:45

I’m really struggling with my dd9. She’s so difiant over everything, argues with us constantly and doesn’t respect us or bothered about any consequences.

if I say no to something she continues to do it even when I’m saying no! If I tell her to do something she won’t do it no matter now many times I tell her/shout/punish her.

its so draining. We had a day out on Saturday just me, her and her dad without the older two dc and it’s something she’s really into (horses), but her attitude switches constantly throughout the day. She’s happy one minute the next she’s stomping around with her arms crossed because iv said no to something. It’s so embarrassing.

at her riding lesson the other day her trainer asked if she has PDA. I had no idea what that is. Because she’s constantly saying no to things without even thinking it through.

im so mentally drained from it all. Of course shes a good girl at school and they have no issues at all.

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scoopofmintchocchipicecream · Yesterday 13:46

If you think DD has PDA, it is worth trying some PDA strategies. The PDA society’s website is a good starting point.

Some people find the book The Declarative Language Handbook helpful. Some also find the book The Explosive Child helpful. You might want to look at non-violent resistance resources too.

I would speak to the SENCO at school.

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