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I have to tell people the awful thing I did today at the hospital

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used2bthin · 19/06/2008 21:58

I locked DD in my car We had to go to A and E because she had a fever in the night and then looked dreadful this morning, mainly because I didn't get up when I heard her whining in her sleep because I assumed it was just mild tooth pain or something and she kept going back to sleep. DD is steroid dependant and her body can't deal with a fever so by morning she was really poorly hence A and E. Then I locked her and my keys, phone, everything in the car because I thought I hadn't locked the passenger side. I feel such a bad mum . I was lucky that a group of workmen were nearby and they were going to break the window but them one of them rang the AA who came out super quick. Poor DD was ok for most of it but started to cry the last five minutes I just feel so dreadful, she was ill and I do that to her!

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Threadwormm · 19/06/2008 22:09

You poor thing! These things happen more when we are stressed, and I'm sure you were really stressed at the time.

Glad it was sorted ok and I hope your dd is feeling better now.

used2bthin · 19/06/2008 22:17

Thanks I needed that! Have only told two friends in RL, can't tell XP or my parents as they would be worried that I'm incapable! It was ok but I am upset that I put her through even more than she already has to go through. Also I should have got up to her in the night instead of letting her keep re settling. Hard though at am and sometimes she gets really upset if I go to her because what she needs is to go to sleep. Oh the guilt of it all!

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hayley2u · 19/06/2008 22:24

like threadwormm said these things hapen when we are really stressed. dont feel too bad used2bthin, how is your daughters fever btw.
i know what you mean about not telling ex p or your mum and dad i have all that too, sodont want them to make you feel worse when you already feel awful

used2bthin · 19/06/2008 22:31

Thanks Hayley2u, she is a lot better thank you. She actually perked up a lot by the time she got into the playroom at A and E. Once her extra steroid kicked in she was able to deal with it I think. Which of course makes me feel bad that I didn't get her up sooner and give her it in the night then she wouldn't have got so bad. Done now though. They tested her for a urine infection and we had to come home to wash her and get a clean catch as the first sample was contaminated so it meant a whole day of it all really. I suppose I've had my punishment!

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used2bthin · 19/06/2008 22:32

I mean we had to come home then go back for them to test again, no infection but protein in the urine anyone know what that means?

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Seuss · 19/06/2008 22:39

Stuff like that happens to everyone - especially when your stressed. My own involves locking myself out the front of the house with three kids including baby in a walker on the inside. The fire-brigade were on their way when ds(ASD) managed to unlock the door - the star! Plus there were workmen there to fit a water meter and I was wearing my pyjamas. And my parents turned up just as I realised I was locked out and it was them that called the fire-brigade. It still makes me feel a bit sick now. But who wouldn't be a wreck taking their child to A&E - hope she's feeling better now and don't beat yourself up about it.

used2bthin · 19/06/2008 22:43

Oh Seuss I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Although not glad you went through that how scary! What a clever boy your DS is to save the day too. It is all so stressful sometimes. Thanks for that, she did seem a bit better so hopefully will have a better night.

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Seuss · 19/06/2008 22:50

Glad she's feeling better. re. going to them in the night - it's hard to know what to do for the best sometimes - especially when you're tired. Hope you both get some rest tonight.

used2bthin · 19/06/2008 22:57

Thanks, it is hard especially as she often cries out in her sleep. I will be going jsut to check next time though. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day!

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2shoes · 19/06/2008 23:05

oh poor you. I did this once(thank god for the receptionist who was a meber of the aa)

jajoom · 20/06/2008 09:39

used2bthin, I really symphatise. It's sooo stressfull visiting A&E especially when you're sleep deprived and feeling a little guilty! I've quite often ignored whimpering in the night thinking my DS is just restless, only to find him poorly in the morning. It's hard to tell the difference between illness and mardyness sometimes, especially before any real symptoms show. I've even told my DS off in the night for shouting and climbing out of bed, and then discovered he's starting with some kind of illness It's a really horrible feeling, but being racked with guilt (over silly things) is all part of motherhood IMO

used2bthin · 20/06/2008 12:20

Thanks 2shoes and jajoom, I feel so much better hearing that others have done similarly scary things. Guilt does come with the territory I agree, I am bad enough on a good day!

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