Help with DH

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DS is nine and has Autism. We can both find communication with our Son difficult but DH more so, this causes DS to lash out in frustration, or either do sensory seeking, or attention seeking behaviours that can be potentially very dangerous. DH gets angry with DS as he fears being judged by other people. Any advice please?

Has DH had any counselling? Is he willing to read books? Has he attended any appointments with SALT and OT?

DS had a recent SALT assessment which DH attended, and he said he feels. the advice in the SALT report will be helpful. we have a Makaton workshop in a few weeks time.. DS has an OT assessment in the coming weeks. DS has SALT and Sensory Integration therapy at his SS as recommended by his OT report done at school. He has read books but the ones he reads are all full of theory and jargon, nothing that explains Autism simply. He’s tried counselling twice but it didn’t work for him as it was virtual, he says he needs face to face. DH finds it difficult to talk directly to DS and not to talk too much or use words DS is unfamiliar with.

Rather than just a SALT assessment, has DH attended any ongoing therapeutic appointments? Both appointments working directly with DS and indirect appointments where the SALT works with you &/or DH. That will help DH.

Can DH look for F2F counselling if he thinks that would work better?

DH doesn’t attend many appointments because of work commitments. I could suggest F2F counselling to him thank you

If possible, I think DH trying to arrange time off to attend some appointments will help. It is unpaid but he could look at parental leave.

DH has a deep anxiety of being judged as a parent by others because of DS behaviours, which I think adds to the problem. Do any other DP have these problems?

Yes, some parents do. That’s why I think counselling and attending some of the SALT appointments will help DH.

Would DH attend any groups for carers?

He would like to but they are usually held during the day, week days.

Thank you

DH could look at taking some parental leave to attend.