Feeling a bit hopeless right now. Was miserable in my old job and have been applying elsewhere for months. Have just been offered a new job, but I would need to find childcare for my 2 DC (DS 4, autism, and DD2, selective mutism, possible autism) for half-term holidays etc.
When I ask my mum friends that have typically developing children, they all just say a babysitter. My kids will not be ok with a babysitter, especially one they haven't met before. I can't really afford to pay to do settling in periods, it would just need to be passing them straight over and leaving them for 6+ hours which I simply cannot do. My DD in particular is very, very distrusting of strangers (because I had never left her before nursery) and has only just started settled into nursery. I dont want to traumatise her by then passing her off onto some random babysitter. I think my son would be okay after a few visits but still unsure how he would react really.
Does anyone have some kind of magical golden solution to this? I have no friends that are capable of watching them due to elder sons needs in particular. I have no family around to watch them either. No contact with their dad and for good reason.
What do you do for childcare?? Please help.