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Can't cope with sons behaviour

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LittleRed34 · 19/03/2026 20:33

Anybody else just sit and cry when their kids are in bed because they can't cope with the aggressive behaviour anymore. My son is suspected ASD and non verbal. He's constantly headbutting me, kicking me, smacking me, and now makes a fist and punches me, pulling hair, biting. All sorts. He trashes the house, flips furniture. I've avoided even taking him out now because he wont walk, he will just drag his body, he will try and run into the road constantly, even walking across the road, he tries to sit down in the middle of the road. It's becoming quite an ordeal. No sense of danger. No empathy. Doesn't know/care he's hurting me all the time. I just don't know what to do anymore. I find his behaviour really triggering.

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TinyMouseTheatre · 21/03/2026 16:12

I do have a DC with ASD but it’s nowhere near as extreme. What help are you getting now @LittleRed34? Flowers

Cariad25 · 26/03/2026 22:25

Really feel for you. My son is 4, diagnosed ASD and is non verbal. He is rough, hair pulling, some slapping etc but at the moment that's the extent of it but even that triggers me so I can imagine how you feel. Even though there's many ups and downs I've felt like I could cope. Now I'm off on maternity leave I feel his behaviours are harder to deal with and I feel constantly drained. But apart from his school and online local support groups there is no help at all and feeling very low. He needs to be supervised at all times and it's this time of night when he's sleeping all my feelings come to a head and I have been dreading the next day even though I do love him so much.
He's due to start a ASD unit in September and I'm praying it helps us a little bit. He doesn't stop from the moment he wakes up until he goes to bed, he is so busy. Do you have a local support group? We have two started by parents, and they've been a lifeline for advice and activities such as additional needs gymnastics, soft play. It really helps him to run about, jump, climb. Also do you have any sensory toys/equipment? Swings, peanut Ball, climbing frame, trampoline?
Sorry haven't got much advice. But in a similar boat to you 💐

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