Struggling with not knowing unless wise

[Ejhdah18]

Hi, sorry shocking title

Im just looking for some reassurance/ advice regarding my daughter. She’s 29 months and non verbal. I’m really really struggling coping with the thought of her being unwell and me not knowing what’s wrong because she can’t tell me. She’s never cries she’s such a lovely content little girl so when one day she’s really upset I just get the most crippling anxiety that she’s unwell and I don’t know what or how to deal with it. She’s the youngest of 4 I’ve always like most mums worried about illness but with her it’s 1000x worse because there’s just no communication there. I don’t know how to just step back and assess the situation my mind just goes too worse cases. I feel like im on edge all the time expecting something bad to happen. Could anyone tell me how they have coped or grounded themselves? As you can tell today is a bad day 😢

Could you start by teaching her some signs OP? If she can grasp signs like more and milk you could try teaching the one for pain?

You could also try dealing with it as though she were younger and if you think she may be unwell, give her a dose of Calpol and see if she picks up?

Has she been referred to SaLT and for a hearing test yet and when is the HV due to see her again?

Hi, yes she’s been referred for all of those we’ve already had a hearing test that came back fine. We’re currently trying to teach her sign but it’s very difficult. We’ve also got our first paediatrician appointment in April for a ASD assessment. It’s so difficult because she’s my fourth child but it’s just all seems so different too my other children. It’s hard sometimes but I’m taking it day by day.