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Completely struggling with ASD 6yo

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LeFxX · 24/01/2026 18:02

My son is coming up to 7yo and I’m losing my mind trying to handle him now.

He sleeps well, he’s half way there to being toilet trained, he’s at a fantastic independent specialist school. He used to hit a lot and he doesn’t anymore, he rarely has meltdowns anymore so I know there are lots and lots of positives, especially when I think back to my sleepless nights full of despair and worry when he was a toddler.

The negatives? He’s obsessed with throwing. I’m talking he throws everything and anything. He throws things out of windows, doors and down the stairs. He will randomly just pick something up and launch it across a room. For example he has just picked a cup up from my bedside table as I’d just had a coffee and he’s thrown it across the room. It narrowly missed my head and the leftover coffee has gone all over the carpet, bedding and wardrobe.

We have tried EVERYTHING possible but nothing helps. We’ve encouraged soft things to be thrown: squishy balls, plushies and balloons. We’ve tried to be stern but it doesn’t work, he simply doesn’t care. Tried some form of timeout - again, he doesn’t care. He doesn’t do it more when he’s upset, angry or happy. He just does it whenever and it’s always out of nowhere.

Just today he’s grabbed a photo frame and it’s smashed to pieces as he’s thrown it down the stairs. The other day he randomly launched his headphones at his window and he created a large crack in it. It’s seriously beginning to stress us out as we have two other younger children to keep safe.

I have no idea what I want from this just some sort of solidarity because this is so bloody tough to deal with every single day. It doesn’t help that he is worse for me and when his dad is home he doesn’t really do it. But obviously dad works mon-fri so it’s not always possible for him to be here. I am completely dreading the school holidays.

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2x4greenbrick · 25/01/2026 17:25

As difficult as it is, I would DS-proof the house. So things like photo frames aren’t in reach, cups aren’t left alone, etc. It isn’t easy, but it is sometimes essential. Has DS had a home OT assessment to look at making the house safer for him? Particularly around windows. You can get specialist screens for them.

Has DS had a sensory OT assessment? And is he receiving ongoing sensory OT input? For some, throwing is related to sensory needs.

Have you had social care assessments? A carer’s assessment for you and an assessment of DS’s needs from the children with disabilities team. These can lead to support such as providing an extra pair of hands for some/all the time when DH is at work and you are managing DC alone. To provide within arm’s reach care if that is what DS needs - again, not easy, but for some, it is essential.

How old are your younger DC? You could check if Home Start operates in your area.

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