Child Protection plan- Help!

[SENSummer]

We have asked for help so many times. Each and every request denied at panel. To the point we began asking about section 20 as felt out of options.
Our AUADHD DS is very high needs, almost 6 and the size of a 10 year old.

Over Christmas we really struggled, holidays are always such a struggle. He attends a specialist school and disregulates in holidays. We are proactive professionals who really have done everything in our ability to manage this safely but his behaviour is extremely challenging to the point that his carer recently quit as they said he was too violent and difficult for them to feel safe.

We had a really tough Christmas. I’ve always been so upfront with the school/SS about our struggles so I got straight on the phone and told them we really couldn’t manage anymore. I feel DS is unsafe around the home, we feel uncomfortable managing these behaviours at home…etc

They’ve put both our children DS and younger sibling on a child protection plan. I’m aghast. I’ve sobbed half of the night. Feel like the most spectacular failure. When we got the feedback from the meeting there were so many inaccuracies, seemingly small things like they thought DS was dry at night when he isn’t and school claimed they toilet trained him when I had to involve bowel and bladder team just to get them to be consistent with all the work I was doing at home.
OT claimed we refused reviews several times when I have email chains showing us asking for reviews and help and being ignored.

These weren’t the main issues but when added up they painted an unfair image of us that I think really made the main issues be viewed more negatively.
I feel like we asked for help again and have been punished. I’m completely devastated and spiralling because surely if a room full of professionals think I’m the problem maybe I am!

You are not the problem.

First, I would write a factual account of all the inaccuracies. As difficult as it is, take all the emotion out. Factual and to the point is what you need. Point out the inaccuracies referencing your evidence and distribute the account and evidence to all involved.

Secondly, you need legal advice from someone specialising in this area. Not just about the CPP, but the disability angle. The person I would normally recommend isn’t taking cases at the moment, but I know some who have been happy with Damien Dobson. I recently saw someone else on MN mention they were happy with his work, too.

Cerebra’s LEAP project doesn’t normally help with CPP cases, but it is worth contacting Cerebra, anyway.

If you haven’t already, read the Working Together to Safeguard Children guidance.

I think you have been punished and my advice would be to tread very, very carefully from this point.

I am not trying to sound doom and gloom but they won’t help you.

I’m honestly terrified. SS are coming on Monday and I’m swinging between ‘point out the inaccuracies and evidence they’re not fair’ and ‘shut up accept it all and get off the plan ASAP’

I’d be inclined to go for the latter but that’s just my instinct. It depends how much you want to fight it. I realise you might not want to say but have they outlined exactly why they believe the children to be in danger?

I’d politely share you want the inaccuracies amended but absolutely need support. and your comments added to the cp reports ( there should be space at the end for family’s comments ) . You can say this in person or email whichever your more comfortable with , if in person follow it up with an email just to cover everything you disagree with saying I have to advocate for my child and part of that is ensuring their needs are adequately accounted and there seems to be some contusion.