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Scratched cars, spitting and major meltdowns - please help!

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ALMummy · 08/06/2008 15:52

Yesterday I went in to my parents garden to discover that DS had scratched the bonnets of both their cars by playing with a metal toy car on them. He also tried to throw a brick at the cars and had at least three major melt downs in one afternoon. He then spat in my face - not in a spiteful way but just to try it out because he had seen it done at school.

It was my worst day ever and I ended up physically carrying him into the house and putting him to bed where he continued to scream and shout out of the bedroom window for about three hours.

I have taken computer time away from him for the week and said no pocket money for a month. I am so new to all this (he is still being assessed for ASD) and I don t even know if he understands what he is being punished for. I am at my wits end. Can someone please give me some advice or at least tell me some experiences so I can get a handle on this. My parents were furious about their cars but have calmed down now and are trying to be understanding but they are quite old and just see it as naughtiness I think.

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ALMummy · 08/06/2008 16:44

Thanks Tclanger. Have tried a sticker chart with him but he lost interest after three days and didnt really care if he got a sticker or not.

I was unusually tired yesterday and I think that contributed greatly. The only thing was I could see something was coming with him so I tried to distract him all day with little activities and games, which worked for the time we were doing them but as soon as we stopped he just started to wind up again. I do think that we both got to a point where I just had no patience or energy left to help him calm down, which has never really happened before.

The I cues sound very positive. I will try that.

What is ABA please?

I am usually very patient with him more so than anyone else really and can nearly always head things off before they get too bad but not alas before the destruction of two car bonnets and more importantly the complete meltdown of one little boy on this occasion .

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Seuss · 08/06/2008 18:28

We have an okay/not okay chart - it lists not okay things and things we like him to do during the day, works in a similar way to the marbles he has to be good to get smilies and he is earning them for a reward. It is good in that if he starting to get worked up we get the chart and reading it together is often enough nowadays. Consistency is def. the key like Tclanger said, the chart was made by school and everyone is using the same system. Must admit I had my doubts but it seems to be working. Added bonus is that it keeps everything positive. Don't dwell on it too much, all kids have bad days.

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