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Tirednhopeful · 19/11/2025 11:38

Does anyone have any advice for a kid with Aspergers/high functioning autism and helping with various behaviours at school, particularly in relation to advocating for themselves and/or concentration/focus?

Our DS aged 10 does not have a diagnosis (he does for some processing issues) - was assessed and told not autistic. But I feel very confident he is borderline what would have previously been called Asperger’s and I worry it’s affecting some interactions with teachers, not least because he doesn’t have a diagnosis, and is actually very bright and in many ways very confident. He will often talk at length about things he knows a lot about (sometimes more than the teacher!) and is also very funny, so I think he takes refuge in those things, but then isn’t always actually fully engaging with the lessons themselves. And I think when he wants to communicate something he’s not always great at advocating for himself, even though he thinks he is.

I think all this gets missed by school because his grades are good, he has lots of friends etc. But it’s causing some issues - eg feels under valued in some classes he adores and I suspect that’d got something to do with his inability to fully engage with teachers in the way they’d like.

Any advice/books etc? Thanks!

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2x4greenbrick · 19/11/2025 13:19

Support in school is based on needs, not diagnosis.

What has the school already tried to help with concentration/focus?

When you say DS has difficulty communicating, do you mean he struggles to speak up or that he is OK at being able to speak but struggles to express his point? Has DS had a SALT assessment?

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