Not Sure I Can Do This - worried for my teen

[Anon3837]

I’m not sure I can do it anymore. That’s it really. I’m terrified of losing my child, who self harms and is ASD, depressed. They are very strong and physical with me. I just feel so low and don’t know what else I can do to help.
im scared of them getting sectioned but I want to keep them safe and for them be be
happy and less volatile with unsafe behaviours towards themself and others. It’s very hard to go out in public too and we are all feeling it.

i do sometimes have Suicidal thoughts too, usually at night. I wouldn’t ever go through with it though. Just life is so, so hard for us as a family and I feel life is passing us by quickly. We Can’t do much, most weeks are a struggle, im drained and just feel like what is the point really?

Have you looked into getting help, like respite care ect? That could help ease at least a little of your stress without sectioning.

I agree with trying to get some support. The amount of support they can need and the feelings of hopelessness can increase bit by bit without is really noticing just how desperate things feel.

If you do want to avoid a crisis, I think, as hard as it is, you need to start planning for both of your futures.

There will be MNers with experience than me, but I think I would be looking at them moving to an assisted living setting. Not immediately but with that as a goal that you’ll all be working towards.

My DM looked after lots of DC with SN who had been looked after by theor parents and the trauma it caused them to not only lose a DP but to have their worlds turned upside down, often having to move to different parts of the country. Well, perhaps being familiar with what can happen after our death has coloured my view somewhat.

Wishing you all the best