Hi, my DD9 is autistic. She has a SEN plan for sensory needs and emotional regulation but is working at or above age related expectations academically. School make allowances for her, are flexible with uniform, she has a wobble cushion, chewellery, fidget toys, an exit card and a resistance band imon her chair. She has ear plugs for wet play and anything else she finds overwhelming. She has the same desk (that she chose) for every lesson to reduce transitions. She goes to breakfast club to avoid the crowds and pressure of going in at the normal time. She needs reminding to drink throughout the day because of medication she takes for bladder. She can use the toilet during lessons for the same reason. She has emotional literacy support a d has had social interventions and is currently having private play therapy.
All in all she is doing really well. She has good friendships with people she has known since nursery. But she doesn't talk to new people or make new friends outside of school. She has no filter and says things that can upset people e.g. if she doesn't like the way someone smells. She has rigid routines she follows e.g. only using a certain toilet or sink, walking a certain way, circling a plant pot on the way out of school, climbing onto walls and fences in a specific order without regard for safety.
I am getting increasingly concerned about secondary school. Her SENCO feels she wouldn't meet criteria for an EHCP. I'm also not sure what would go in one, if any additional funding is necessary really. She doesn't need 1:1 or specialist provision. She just needs some flexibility and understand really.
Unfortunately as we live on a border it is unlikely any friends will go up to secondary with her but I believe our catchment school is way better for SEN anyway, the uniform is more sensory friendly and her brother already goes there.
Every professional seems to think an EHCP is unnecessary as anything she needs is likely to be available under ordinarily available provision. But every parent I speak to seems to think an EHCP is needed for schools to take neurodivergent seriously.
Has anyone got any advice?