i realised today that in a strange way I am lucky that dd is disabled

[2shoes]

ds was telling me today about a girl he knows. she is having problems at home and was saying it was so bad she was going to run away. seem she really doesn't get on with her mum.(all seems to be ok)
made me realise that I will never have to go through this with dd. we are best friends and she needs me.
I did say it was strange.
so come on do you secretly think you are lucky to miss out on some of the nt stuff.

My ds is 'cheap' to provide for, in terms of entertainment, in that he doesn't care about expensive toys (PCs, wiis, gadgets, character toys, cars, etc). He has simple 18mth-24mth toys from which he gets lots of pleasure. Going on holiday is a no-no too, so that also saves loads of money.

But I do not think I am lucky because of this, but I get your point!

glad you get my point. obviously not really lucky, but I was calling on black humour.

I find nt kids odd. they don't need picking up and putting in seats.my freinds dd used to look at me very odly as I would be lifting her up like I do dd

nt kids make yu have stupid conversations about all manner of things, at least with my autistic 3 year old, I can just chant numbers all day and he does not expect me to pay constant attention to him, I don't even have to look at him. My 5 year old is into his obsessions, and that is so much more predictable! Today he told me my voice hurts his ears, so now I don't have to make conversation at all really.
I don't have to plan too much about meals, I always know what they will eat!

My disabled DD2 is much "easier" in some ways than hectic DD3 (20 months).

I had forgotten just how much work toddlers are - DD2 couldn't run around like that!

Also, my ds is non-verbal so I don't have to chatter away all day long, answer lots of 'what's that?' questions or endlessly take him to the toilet (because he wears nappies)!!!

Ds1 doesn't ask me "what do you thin kabout this?" and "why is that? and ask awkward questions that I can't answer.
He has only limited concept of birthdays and other special occassions so doesn't pester me for things he wants.
He likes games like Peekaboo and hiding under blanket and In the Night Garden and Teletubbies so we have no arguments when his younger brother wants to play those games or watch those programmes.

Ds is my first and I have to carry him about the house. It hit me the other day how strange it will be when I have a child that can walk and can get into the car by themselves....very strange concept to me...!

Some of my work is with young offenders and it did cross my mind the other day that Im glad that I wont have that 'set' of worries with DS

Of course I talk when I'm with my ds, what I meant was that I don't have to do the endless answering of questions that NT kids ask all day long!

Ds doesn't bring home hoards of little friends to charge around the house pretending to be Indiana Jones which is actually quite a relief. It's normally quite peaceful here. My friend constantly has a houseful of enormous spotty teenage boys who ensure that her fridge is always empty, and there's never anywhere to sit. At least ds is unlikely to inflict that on me!
And 2shoes, I know what you mean about kids doing things for themselves. I found myself putting dd's shoes on for her earlier out of habit. She looked at me a bit strangely, after all she is NT and 12 years old .

We used to go out to reastaurants, cafes etc with DD and it was always fun and relaxed....never had to worry about chasing her around and she absolutely loved going out so never complained........now DS has morphed into a head strong toddler those days are a distant fond memory