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DD on waiting list for adhd/asd - advice on behaviour getting ready for school

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Pringle84 · 18/06/2025 09:57

So I'm looking for some advice , help with my dd who is 9, she is on the waiting list for adhd/asd. She has diagnosed dyslexia.
So my question is how do you as a parent deal with getting ready for school or bed?
My daughter has waves of getting up no problem and getting ready , and then waves of getting up and dressed (albeit slowly, she does it) having breakfast but wen it comes to brushing teeth , getting shoes and socks on, any distraction puts a halt to this, I will go and check how she's getting on and she will be standing looking out her window, I say to her u need to clean ur teeth and she will either ignore me, or say no, and then after a 10min battle of me saying ur going to be late , I'm going to take this or this away she will slowly do it , but it's a battle and alot of the time she's then late, she says she doesn't care if she's late , wen we get to school she's absolutely fine.
We have tried a number of different charts for morning , and rewards for on time, they work for a little while then she seems to get bored and doesn't want to do it. I've just sorted a new chart today to try, but how do ppl deal with the distractions, I send her up to get ready she says she's getting ready , I go up 10mins later and she hasn't done anything and is sorting something in her room, looking out window , or sitting there playing with a toy. If I stay up there with her , she just argues with me and refuses to do anything.
Bedtime was always fine but now similar thing is happening some nights, as morning. I have done a bedtime chart to follow aswell.
But is there something I should be saying, doing, to help her do what she's meant to be doing without being distracted? Just looking for any advice , help from someone who's had similar situation , and how they deal with things . Thanks

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CornishDew · 24/06/2025 22:36

Pre adhd meds, my DD 8 wasn’t allowed to go downstairs in a morning until fully ready. I felt bad but it was the only possible way without meltdowns and a rather stressful morning all round. Nothing else worked for us

CookieWaffle · 25/06/2025 22:43

My child is PDA, we keep demands low in our house. If I say we need to do something, it doesnt always go down so well. But if Alexa says it, or a timer ends, then it's more likely to be accepted and followed. Morning and evening routines are done by time in our house. We go to bed at the same time, we leave the house at the same time in the morning. For everything else, we get Alexa to give us a timer, that way it can't be argued with 😂I believe you can set alerts in advance as well.

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