Homework struggles

[WHYohwhy12]

My child is 12 and on the waiting list to be assessed for ADHD. His old teacher filled form in as did I. Had an email from your NHS last week to say that they think he needs an ADHD and autism assessment and have put him on the waiting list.

So he's not diagnosed yet. He's in first year of high school so gets homework regularly. It's headache inducing getting him to do it. He's behind in maths especially. He wants me to sit with him and help, but he's often just shouting, not listening etc. The worst bit as each question has a 1 minute video which would explain it but he won't watch it. Then if I make him he watches it sped up so can't hear it. He then starts shouting that he can't do it. Should I just let him get on with it?? He gets a detention if he doesn't do it. I find it so draining. Advice please

Have you spoken to the school? There are lots of possibilities they could make. For example, they could stop all homework, reduce homework down to just core subjects, provide paper based homework, limit homework to X amount of time even if it isn’t complete. Is there a homework club DS could attend?

@WHYohwhy12 same frustrations here

what helps massively

• make homework fun, be animated when he gets something right
• smarties/sweeties with every good effort help massively
• little rewards and often (make them visual so he anticipates)
• If you can, kick off the solution yourself and then he follows . Adhd kids likely they can’t make the first move, so you’d need to help

good luck not easy x