I’ve woken up feeling so sad and desperate. My DD (7) was diagnosed auDHD last year. Our main tell tale signs were huge emotional highs and lows and violent meltdowns.
id be really grateful for any advice on how to deal with these meltdowns. All the official advice I have received it “don’t let it get to that point. Keep her cup empty” FFS. Helpful.
she can go from 0-100 quickly so there’s no pre empting it half the time
how would you deal with yesterday -
she’s meant to be in a club until 5pm. I get a call at 420 asking me to collect her as she’s having a meltdown. I can hear her screaming in the background, so I rush round. When I get there she is devestated. It’s heartbreaking. She thinks she’s been ‘thrown out’ of art club and refuses to leave. She’s screaming this and there’s other kids around. I physically pick her up and carry her out. This escalates things and outside she turns on me. She hates me. She’s kicking and punching me. She then stays away from me. All the time I’m trying to sympathise. I totally get why she’s so upset. She hasn’t been naughty she’s just been ‘too’ upset. I get it. I try to offer things - like to go buy an ice cream, but she’s too furious that I’m refusing to let her go back inside the club.
its worth mentioning that all this time her 5yo brother is sitting in the car with a fever having been home sick all day.
eventually I again pick her up, open the car door with one hand and pretty much kick her in. I felt like I was kidnapping her. I had to drive home with her rattling around in the back un-belted because she was just going ballistic.
it took about an hour for her to calm down.
what on earth am I meant to do in this situation. I’m on borrowed time before she’s too big to pick up. How to I deal with this in a year or two when she’s too heavy?!?!
could I have handled this better?