My son is autistic, delayed language, difficulty writing, lots of developmental delays. He’s also curious, funny, imaginative, creative. Have moved from Ireland recently where he was in a nurturing specialist class, with high teacher/adult ratio. That was caring and safe, but also not so challenging.
Now he’s 12 - and the transition to secondary? I’ve looked at every school, specialist, mainstream, the lot. None are suitable at all. He’s bright, but extremely vulnerable and a sensitive, quiet soul.
So after we moved to England, I’ve been home schooling him the last few months and it’s going great. But even the online schools I’ve found are so regimented, they don’t get that he has a spiky profile. I’m doing most now myself or with workbooks and will get in tutors. Am doing social/outings too. He’s thriving.
He would almost certainly get an EHCP - have applied and got request accepted - but am a bit scared of the fight for EOTAS and him being ‘forced’ into a named school, or even EOTAS accepted but some mediocre ‘provision’ online that also doesn’t suit. He has clear SEN needs but in my 12 years of having him - had so many specialists let him down and waste our time - I’ve no energy to fight a system.
What are other people’s experiences? Is EOTAS often given with a personal budget? Are you fined for not sending him to a named school? He’s so happy with a pretty low budget home schooling, and doing so well, part of me thinks what is the point of all that expensive fighting? But then the EHCP seems important for other things I guess?