UPDATE
Spoke to parent partnership (over phone) and she seem to thinks that we may be able to get things put back to panel rather than go to sendist, we still plan to apply to sendist, but im hopeing that we can avoid that by proofing that my daughter is still needing almost FT support in class.
Had a meeting this week with class teacher and SENCO (this was planned b4 the LEA turned down) the meeting was ment to be basically about how she is settling at her new school.
So far her teacher is really pleased with the procress she has made and she is now starting to work more independantly (for some of her day). Teacher feel that she can now start and see what she a capable of accademicley. At the moment DD is included in a group with the other SEN children in her class (two of these have a place in the Intergrated unit and have quite complexed learning difficulties). I am actually really greatfull that the school have included her with this group as its meant that she has had almost constant 1 to 1.
The SENCO feels that we will have a real battle on our hands, getting the LEA to agree to assess DD, as she has no problems with learning and to get an assessment done by our LEA for social and emtional problems is almost impossible. She said by all means see it through.......but warned us not to be to hopefull.
Now this is where im starting to get confused!! (so bare with me) I know that once her teacher sees what she is accademicly capable of, she will see that the group that she is currently included in is not really appropriate for her - but to move her groups will mean less support (if any) than she is getting at the moment.
The thing is i dont think that her new school have really got to know her that well (after all its only been 6 wks) I am obvioulsy as hopefull as the school is, that my DD will indeed manage to cope and work independantly, but i know my own daughter and even at home i struggle to get her to listen, follow instuctions ect ect. She has almost zero social skills and this is what causes her the most stress, due to her condition she just doesnt get the other kids.
I know the ideal thing to do here would be to wait and see how she does, but we have got things this far and i think to not take it to the next step would be a waste. DD is still wetting her bed some nights (this was not an issue before she started school last sept) so is obviously still feelin stressed.
The whole thing is really wearing me down, i feel like just letting the whole thing drop.
Its like the LEA only care about the learning bit and not the whole picture, If the LEA wont help her with her social and emotional needs..... then who will ???. Its like they need her to fail accademicly before they will do anything.......why should she ???? she has a passion to learn, but need someone to help her. Its like she need someone to help learn how to learn.
I feel that if she could get the support that she needs in her early education she will be able to aviod all the obsticals that we read about on here every day!! Hopefully as she gets older she may not need the support... The heartache we went through getting a DX was a waste of time!!.