ASD Daughter being discriminated against?

[Mummyof2asd]

My daughter is in year 3 at school she has been having meltdowns at school so her timetable has changed to part time. There is a disco on after school that she is really excited to go to as she loves music and dancing, but school have said she can’t go as they don’t think she can handle it . She’s been to every other disco they have had and always had so much fun and never been any issues . My daughter has been in tears as she has heard all the other pupils talking about it and knows she s not allowed to go. I’m so upset for her .feel like not taking her in tomorrow. Is this discrimination or do you think it’s right ? Thanks

There are two issues here. The disco and more general everyday school life. Complain about the former. If they don’t think DD will cope, what adjustments have they considered? About the latter, why is DD on a part-time timetable? Is alternative provision in place? Does she have an EHCP?

She shouldn't be on a part time time table, she's entitled to a full time education. What have they put in place to enable her to be there full time? You need to insist that she needs a full time education and they need to find a way to make that possible.

Is there a possible compromise on the disco because it sounds like a punishment! Could you go and help out at the disco so you can be there if she melts down? That might not be possible without a DBS though. Alternatively could you offer to sit outside in the car or be somewhere so that you're right there if there's any problem?

@StrivingForSleep @Lou205 she is on a part time table as she is having more melt downs at school. She used to mask at school but now she is in year 3 she is falling apart. Last month she lashed out at the head teacher, a little girl in her class has been getting her in trouble getting her to chase her then telling the teacher and then put her arms around my daughter to trap her so she couldn’t escape, which being autistic she hates things like that.
i honestly feel like the part time table is just easier for the school than to have my daughter in full time. When she is in she sits on a table in the corridor doing LEGO as they say she refuses to learn or lays in a room on her own on a beanbag. She s no longer part of her year 3 class as they say her seeing this other child is causing a problem as my daughter keeps shouting she hates her and causing more melt downs. They offered no alternative to the disco honestly the only child not invited in the whole school I feel gutted for her they just didn’t want her there. The school is a school that’s been graded outstanding by ofsted, I really feel like my child is just an inconvenience to them. We are in the process of getting an EHCP I’m awaiting the draft copy it’s taking a long time and since we applied things have just got worst. The school have said to me they can not meet her needs. I feel like they have given up on her . Sorry about the grammar im so tired. Hope it makes sense

The school have said to me they can not meet her needs.

Do you have this is writing? Same for things like DD not being in class?

Is the LA sticking to the EHCP timescales? Has all the necessary advice and information been sought?

If you want DD to attend full time, she can, unless the school is formally suspending her. Otherwise, it is an unlawful, informal exclusion. Part-time timetables should not be used to manage behaviour or for the school’s benefit because the school can’t meet DD’s SEN. However, if you don’t think DD can cope full time, e.g. because of her mental health, request alternative provision. On their website, ISPEA has a model letter you can use.