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ADHD traits in 2 year old

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Firstimemum24 · 12/02/2025 16:11

I am the mom of a 24 month old girl who I highly suspect she is on the mild side of the spectrum. I live in the Uk and we don’t have levels here . She doesn’t have issues communicating her needs and can answer what’s, where’s , who’s simple questions . She has good joint attention and good receptive and expressive language for a 2 year old . She can put 2/3 words together that are spontaneous. She sleeps like a champ and rarely has a tantrum ( if she does it doesn’t last more than 10 minutes ) . Understands “Come here” and “Sit down” • Identifies several body parts • Follows one-step commands during play • Understands some early prepositions she understands on ) • Finds familiar objects not in sight • Chooses familiar objects from a group on request • Understands familiar action words • Attends to and identifies familiar pictures What has concerned me for a while now it’s the following list . - Always the need to carry objects in her hand - She doesn’t like dirt on hands but doesn’t mind playing with mud and sand - Struggling in social settings like coffee shops , she shakes and gets excited and doesn’t stay still - Anxious around her peers but always tries to fit in - When meeting a new person she starts using jargon and singing nursery rhymes. - Toe walking that has been going for 12 months now Now , I have expresses these concerns with the GP and HV on multiple occasions . In November , the HV put a referral for the community paediatrician forward and a couple of weeks ago we got a text saying that our application was rejected on the basis that’s this is typical development and we should continue to expose her to social settings . My hands are tied at the moment short of going private as I am the only one who thinks this is atypical . It is causing a lot of friction with my husband and family and I am starting to doubt my own mind . I realise she is very young but I’d like to hear from any parents who can give me any advice or point me in the right direction ☺️.

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StrivingForSleep · 12/02/2025 17:12

Your threads indicate you are concerned and anxious about DD, so you should speak to the GP. However, much of what you list is entirely typical of some toddlers.

No-one is going to diagnose ADHD in a 2 year old. And the spectrum isn’t a linear spectrum from mild to severe.

Senzafine · 13/02/2025 08:30

As with all the other multiple threads you've posted all you've done is list completely normal toddler behaviour.

I find somewhat offensive and attention seeking that you are continually posting long lists of normal toddler behaviour which you have been told is normal and hijacking threads of people who have genuine concerns about their children. It's one thing to be anxious, it's quite something else to be repeatedly searching and posting for updates on threads that are a number of years old.

I feel desperately sorry for your child. It can't be good for her relationship with yourself and for her own self esteem growing up to have every single tiny behaviour and interaction heavily scrutinised and picked apart. Or to be dragged to multiple health professionals by a mother who is completely hellbent on there being something wrong with their child. When do you plan to stop this? Will she still be at school and you'll be obsessing over everything instead of letting her enjoy her childhood.

Kindly OP, you are not an expert on childhood language, behaviour or development. You're reading articles, picking phrases out of them without any real understanding about them and then trying to apply them to your daughter to prove something is "wrong". You've been rejected by multiple health professionals now for a referral as they have quite rightly said everything is normal toddler development. It's now also impacting on relationships with your own family. None of this will end well for you or your daughter. Why don't you actually take the advice of professionals and posters and expose your child to more social situations, seek help for your anxiety, stop reading articles on language, autism etc that you have no real understanding of and just let your child enjoy her childhood before you completey damage relationships within your own family and your relationship with her.

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