dd called worst behaved child in class

[Ilovehousemusic]

i am so angry

she has as and adhd and is 8

teacher said this to dd yesterday

Straight to the Head for you.

How dare the teacher !

Was it the regular one ? Not that I'm making excuses if someone was covering as they should be informed of such things.

If her behaviour in not acceptable then she needs to be spoken to privately and with respect, even involve you but not humiliate the poor child.

for you and your DD, completely OTT

DS1s head told me a year or so ago that he was exceptional - and she didn't mean it in a positive way! It was said in the context of a conversation regarding his behaviour (he's 9 with AS).

I would be livid if a teacher said to my DS what she has said to your DD! You most defintely need to say something. If you are happy with the teacher otherwise I would speak her rather than the head.

agree with KM and others - it's absolutely shocking she said that, particularly given your DD's dx'es.

Yes she said to to my child and when I spoke to her yesterday was extremely rude to me. I cried solidly for 2 hours
I have a meeting at 9 with the head, dh is coming with me thankfully!
Why can't people get invisible disabilities ffs 2 years ago I was called in for her lack of eye contact and inappropriate behaviour.

best wishes for the meeting with the head, very sorry that you and DD were so upset.

Ilovehousemusic Hi. I'm not supprised you are upset! It is truely horrible when this sort of thing happens to our kids.
Sounds like the teacher rather lost it (!!)and critised the child not the behaviour. Not Good! I'm sure your dd has some lovely qualities that the teacher may need to notice extra carefully!
Hope your meeting goes well.

I've lost track of how many times we've been through this with teachers and our own son, too. Just so rude, so ignorant of teachers. Really hoping you get some good news from the head. Sounds like they need better training in how to handle things, or better support for your daughter in the classroom.

I hope the meeting was okay, ILHM. xx

That's terrible that a teacher should say that to your dd I hope the meeting goes O.K.

Remember also that if they discipline your child without due regard for their disablities (ie treat them as a "normal" child without making allowance for their SEN) they could be going contrary to the Disability Discrimination Act. One to keep in your back pocket, as clearly it escalates things!

Waste of time. They closed ranks and turned it all around. Too tired to fight anymore. Sick of it
Thanks for yr supportive messages xxx

Sorry meeting did not seem to go well. It is so dispiriting when schools do not understand. Hope you are OK?
Do school get input from an autism outreach service that could help them understand how to motivate and reward dd? Self esteem is so important.

magso ~ tbh dh and i both feel so low after the whole thing. i am stunned that the teacher in question was allowed to get away with it and when i mentioned dd's sn it was brushed to one side. she is in a unit for sn so you would think they would be more understandable. there was just no point in arguing and i knew whatever we said they had an answer for. all very well rehearsed and it was my events v 3 other teachers there at the time