What would you do? House move.

[Daisychain53]

I lived on a UK island with my child that has various disabilities, last year we moved to the UK mainland to be nearer family with the view that there is more to do and less travelling to see people we love. I hoped for a better quality of life & previously I had felt isolated and that I was missing out on things due to location. (FOMO)
The problem is the quality of housing here is on another level, partly my fault for accepting this one. our last house was a new build, not disabilty adapted but definitely disabilty friendly, this house isn't at all and therefore totally unsuitable. (Unfortunately we couldn't view it and the association were not honest with the condition of the house)
There is also very little disability services and support where we currently are, I did look into this before hand and was told (by social work) it was in development stages for the area, but it appears to have come to nothing with no more plans.
Where we lived before was brilliant for disability support and the services available.
So my question is, what would you do? Stick it out here longer or go back?

Is this a case of thinking the grass will be greener moving back? You moved for a reason. Those reasons will still exist if you move back.

Which UK country are you in? Depending on which nation you are in, there are ways of improving the support you are receiving. For example, if you are in England, you can pursue an EHCP for DC, social care support can be pursued, you can request a home OT assessment to look at aids, equipment and adaptations, and you can look at a disabled facilities grant for the home.

I'm in Scotland and done all of that (apart from EHCP as don't do them here)
the adaptions that are needed can't be done and they said to be rehoused, we had a social work support in the last area that hasn't been restarted here (they haven't forwarded it on despite me asking many times)
i think it is a case of the grass being greener, but for coming here and now feeling like it was a mistake.

For educational support, have you spoken to Enquire?

For social care support, if the new area has refused to provide support, have you formally complained? If that hasn’t worked, have you complained to the SPSO? Depending on the specifics of your circumstances, judicial review may be possible.

Disabled Facilities Grants aren’t available in Scotland either. The system is different.

Thanks I know all that stuff, been in this game many years now:
it's more about emotional & familiarity. My child has been ill recently and I'm missing everything we knew and the old routines, things not being expected when we got here etc.

It sounds like you made the move with the best intentions, hoping for a better life for both you and your child, but reality hasn’t quite matched up. That must feel incredibly frustrating—especially when you were misled about the house and the disability services in the area.

If the housing situation is making daily life harder and there’s little to no support, it’s completely understandable to consider moving back. Quality of life is about more than just being near family; it’s also about having the right environment and services to thrive.

Before making a decision, you could explore if there are any housing transfer options within the same area or look into disability advocacy groups that might help push for the support that was promised. If things don’t improve and you were happier where you were before, going back could be the best choice for both of you.

Trust your gut—your well-being and your child’s needs come first.