Hi everyone, I know all children with ASD present so differently but would love some advice! I would also like to start off by saying that if I do end up having a child with ASD down the road I know it's not the end of the world but I would just like to get supports in place if needed. I have a lovely 3.5year old boy. He is very affectionate and loves playing with us and his baby brother. He has always been on the clingy side but did happily play alongside other children at toddler playgroups. He has always appeared to meet his usual developmental checks as expected (still is on the ages and stages for this age). However, preschool have flagged some issues and advised to keep an eye and send off a referral in case it's needed when he starts school (waiting list is very long). The issues flagged were still parallel playing, not always following instructions, jumping up and down (stimming?) and delayed toilet training. The teacher did say that this could all be a completely different story in June but wanted to flag it now so we could keep an eye. We started potty training him just after his 3rd birthday and it took about 7weeks for him to be reliably trained at home and then he had a few regressions where he would have accidents in school. When we have used a reward system the accidents stop almost immediately in school so I've always felt there is a behavioral aspect as it doesn't tend to happen at home either. He does appear to stim and always has. He has flapped his hands when excited when he was younger and still does now but very rare, likes running back and forth and jumping up and down. When he has had a busy day with lots of exercise he doesn't stim as much so I've always linked it to just being very active. His language is very good and mostly uses pronouns correctly. He doesn't ask why much but questions things asking what and where loads. He has an excellent memory and sense of direction. He has started avoiding eye contact with new people but with family and friends he knows he has no problem making great eye contact. I have started observing him with other children his own age and he is definitely interested in playing but is trying to figure out how. I keep flip flopping whether I have a shy awkward little boy (I myself can be shy and awkward!) or a child with ASD? I work part time and was only ever minder by grandparents if that's at all relevant. Would love some advice from people who have been through this