This morning J asked me if he could have his haircut..a first for him because he HATES going to the Barbers normally.
So after lunch we headed off for his cut.
The Barbers was very quiet so we were lucky and only had a 5 minute wait. J sat very quietly watching the Barber cutting an elderly gentlemans hair.
Old man was finished and J jumped up into the chair happy as larry.
The Barber, whom we have known for years, asked J why he wasnt in school. J replied "because I'm not". R, the Barber said that that wasnt a polite answer to give. I explained that J was home educated now.... J hit the roof and told me to be quiet.
R then told J off for talking to me so rudely. I stepped in and said that J felt uncomfortable with people knowing why he was out of school and that perhaps we should just get on with the haircut.
J was so upset and was very wriggly in the seat. R then told J to stop being silly and to sit still. I explained he was a little agitated because we had talked about schooling and that perhaps if J sat on my lap then things would go a bit smoother.
R then asked J how old he was. J replied nearly 19. He is nearly 9. R told J that he wasnt going to talk to him if he didnt stop being silly and stupid and ranted on at my boy saying that if he was his son that he would give him a "good lick" for speaking to people the way he did.
J then said it is rude to lick people, so he then had R lecturing him on answering back....I could take no more so I asked R to stop cutting J's hair paid him his money and we left!!!!!
Now J has a half cut hair style...thank goodness I have managed to get a friend to come over later tonight to finish it off.
J is so upset by what has happened and keeps asking me why people would want to lick him.
I explained to J that a lick is another word for smack. He was horrified that R had wanted to smack him and cant understand what he has done wrong.
To top it all when we got home he saw how upset I was and overheard me talking to my friend about how some kids in society do speak to people with disrespect...the drunken thugs hanging about at night in town...how the police should be dealing with them... that some of these kids are the ones who should have a good thump....
At 4pm the phone rang and it was the police to say they had received a call from our number reporting an assault. J had phoned the police to tell them that Mummy wants R to smack the kids in town who drink too much and not him.
Fortunatly the local community officer is a family friend and was really understanding.....just a shame the Barber wasn't!!!!
I am so angry and upset.