Ds2 is 16. He is currently in the process of an autism assessment after 12 years of "all toddlers rock like that", "he can't be autistic because he has friends" , "he just has sensory issues", and then over 2 years in the waiting list. He doesn't have learning disabilities and while he isn't a massively high achiever who gets all 9's, he got into college to do a levels with a bit of subject tweaking.
One of his major problems is he struggles to communicate to us when he is ill. When questioned he says he is fine. Recently I saw dried blood on his sock when I was doing his laundry. I finally persuaded him to show me his feet and he had an infection that took 2 lots of strong antibiotics to shift. He was still insisting that he was fine and didn't need treatment.
Dh is very much a glass half full person when it comes to the dc and what they can achieve while I am a worrier. But even dh was saying that he was worried about ds2 going away to university because of he gets ill he just wont tell anyone. I am now concerned that he will never be able to leave home safely.