serious help needed

[Claire123e]

Hi 😆back again with a question on food and behaviour for my quirky 19 M DD:
So to sum it up and get straight to the point
She can :

• point , wave , clap
• Understand commands ( get shoes , where’s the book , go up the stares , No , Stop etc
• Can say up to 100 words
• Can ask for what she wants ( water , food etc .
• Sleeps really well and through the night
• She tells me when she does a poo

My main concern is food : she has been fussy a while now and still wants me to feed her the mail meal . Happy to eat finger foods such as fruits , sandwiches, toast crisps . She seems a bit wary on pasta with sauce to touch but she would wolf it down if I give it to her . She eats any sauce ( pesto , bolognaise, meatloaf , rice , potatoes eggs salami .) But she is not bothered by touching fruits or cheese . She loves raw vegetables . She knows what the spoon and the fork are for as she eats yogurt with her spoon and stabs at the food with the fork ☺️. She shows me her hand when some food get stuck and asks me to clean it . Has any moms/ dads ever encountered a similar situation and if so have you broken the code ? I am aware that it is unusual as all kids her age can self feed with spoon and fork . Any help would be appreciated

She sounds like a very normal toddler. Why are you posting in this section and what actually is your concern?

Some 19 month old toddlers do struggle with self feeding using cutlery. Your threads indicate you are very concerned so you should speak to the HV and GP again.

She's sounds perfectly normal, different textures and tastes can take time but I Wouldn't be overly worried.

@Claire123e my youngest has a diagnosis that includes Avoidant/Restrictive Food Disorder. She sounds in now way like your DD.

It's perfectly normal for toddlers to go through a fussy stage that coincides with them being more mobile. It's so they don't eat harmful things when they're away from their Mum.

If you do think she may be ND, I'd suggest filling in the Social & Emotional Ages & Stages for her age group