Not sure if this is normal behavior in 9 month old baby

[JessWier]

I'm curious if I'm just not as patient as I was 16 years ago or what but it seems here lately my LO is constantly whining or fussing or throwing one of her tantrums. "They" say that their too young to be able to throw tantrums or have anger issues but I'm starting to become a bit worried by the behaviors that she does along with the anger. I love her to death, don't get me wrong and she's adorable and has her moments when she's cute, and smiley, but usually not for very long. She doesn't seem to play with toys like I think she should and will chew or bite on everything all day, has been since she was about 2 months old. Sometimes she acts like she can't get enough and will bite hard and pull it out and shake her head real quick. (I have been wearing my hair up for over 3 months because of this) Also I noticed her shuddering (like a cold shiver in her shoulders and head) throughout the day. When she shakes something like a rattle she will sometimes shudder or make a strange face with her mouth open like a yikes with no teeth 😬 face. She also flaps her arms when she is excited and will pant sometimes. She also does this when I try to stand her up. She seems soooooo squirmy all the time and has since birth. Never sitting still. She doesn't babble or say "mama" or "dada" or "baba" just makes weird noises like loud "ahhh", grunting, screaming, and yelling. I've talked to her pediatrician and I'm going back on the 29th to mention some of my concerns but I feel like I am getting dismissed and everyone keeps telling me it's normal. I don't think it is. She still wakes up 5-9 times a night for a bottle and to be rocked back to sleep. I just want to know if anyone else has a LO that can relate or comment if not. Thanks

I think it will be difficult to get a medical professional to share your concerns whilst your child is under one, but definitely push them at her one year review if you still have concerns especially around the babbling!

Biting, hair pulling and flapping are normal baby behaviour in my experience. My DD(7) was also a very fussy baby and woke up every 1.5-2 hours at night until she was 13 months and was a nightmare to get to sleep. She’s developed fine but is still very active and an early riser.

My DS(4) who is autistic was actually a very easy baby in comparison— very calm and a good sleeper. The main signs for us that he might be autistic were lack of eye contact and lack of pointing to things. He also did not babble or say any words at one year. It took until his two year review to be taken seriously, so do push HARD if you feel she needs more support!