Hope

[MumsyAm]

I have a 28 month old son with undiagnosed ASD, on waiting list. He’s verbal but challenging behaviour and likely PDA. I also have a baby already showing autistic traits.

I am really struggling emotionally realising that I have two likely autistic boys and my fears for the future. The grief is overwhelming at the moment. I love them both so much but don’t want them to struggle or us to struggle as a family. I often wonder how they will be in 5,10,15 or 20 years time. I try to stay in the present but it’s hard.

I know we always post about the struggles of autism. Can people please post all the positives, preferably those who have kids many years down the line.

I need hope right now.

Thank you all.

I have four children all of them are quirky in there own way. My 4 year old is under assessment for autism, she is verbal but like your son she has behaviour related problems and is violent. My 2 year old is now starting to line things up and walk on tip toes and extreme meltdowns and obsessions with closing doors. There have been times where i have literally cried myself to sleep.at one point i just didn't know how to make her happy she screamed all the time and was violent. I felt like a failure as a mother. I understand how you feel it feels like you are drowning. The best thing i did was do research and watched lots of youtube videos on how to understand and communicate with your autistic child. And how to deal with meltdowns. My life is hard but its so much more manageable now that i know how to manage her. My two year old has an appointment in August to see if she needs further investigation. You arent alone hun and im hre if you need to chat xx