FTM please advice

[Molly273]

Hi lovely community ☺️
hope you are doing well and thank you for taking the time to read my post . Let me start by saying , I am hoping to find some kind help and understanding that I am a FTM who just wants to help her child . My DD( 17 months ) is giving me a bit of concerns . She has always met her milestones and all in all she is quite happy .

• she has 40/50 words and can link to words together
• she loves singing and dancing
• sleep through the night since she was 14 months
• waves , points , claps
• eats well ( a bit picky ) but loves pasta with lentils , fruits etc
• she can imitate what we do , pretend play with toys and brings us books and toys to show .
• she has been walking for 6 months
• she is shy of other people
• she understand simple command such as “ no and stop “ but when we ask to bring us something she still won’t do it .

Now she does usually respond to her name and look at us straight in the eyes but if she is watching telly or playing won’t be bothered to answer 🙉 . My two biggest concerns are the fact that when barefooted and excited she tip toes a bit , and when she out running and turn her head to look for us does the “ side look “ ( which I always do when I turn my head ) but I read it is a big sign of autism .

now she has just been seen by both her HV and GP and no concerns whatsoever. I have also been at a “ health family wellbeing hub “ to observe her and nothing has been deemed “ concerning “
I know I should enjoy my little girl and I will I am after some experiences of more seasoned mums .

I’ll be honest OP she sounds fab, hitting all her milestones and a lot of children don’t answer their name when watching tv as their brain is overstimulated with the lights and colours on screen.

Im a mum of 3 myself and my daughter who’s 3 and a half is on the waiting list to be assessed and she was doing none of those things at your daughters age and is quite delayed now. You’ve done all the right things getting her looked at by the HV and the hub place and they’ve said no concerns as well.

enjoy your little girl and being a new mum OP.

There’s nothing particularly concerning in your posts, but if you are concerned, you should speak to the GP and HV again. Are you the poster who has posted other threads and has seen a private paediatrician who has also said there aren’t any concerns?

I’m curious why you’re considering that your child may be autistic. Is there a family history?

From what you’ve said, I wouldn’t be concerned. It sounds like she’s meeting all her milestones and even ahead in terms of communication.

I think the tiptoeing is a normal phase when they are fairly new walkers especially on different surfaces that might feel funny on their feet (prickly grass, dry dirt, cold tiles, etc).

In terms of the “side look”… if she’s just turning her head to look at you then it’s not the same thing that you see with ASD. I find with my DS (4.5, ASD) the “side look” is very intentional— he looks to the side when he is called and diverts his eyes away from us to not make contact but so he can see us out of his peripheral vision, or looks to the side in the opposite direction of us.